One of my favorite Sex and the City quotes is “we whine when we do have boyfriends and we whine when we don’t”. I don’t think there has ever been more truth in a statement. Being in a relationship and being single are both great and healthy at times in our lives. But, I have seen so many women base their worth on finding a relationship and it breaks my heart. I have been there. I understand what it’s like to want a meaningful relationship.
For a long time now, I’ve wanted to meet my husband. I know that sounds so crazy, especially since I’m only 23, but it’s true. Everyone knows that guys these days are douchebags. I have been in a few relationships, so I know how amazing dating and love can be. I never really considered myself a relationship girl, until I realized I have been never been this single for 20 months. I kept thinking to myself, did I just want someone to be there for me or was it that I was simply tired of dating? These thoughts crossed my mind, but then I realized I will never have this simplistic, wonderful and carefree time again.
I will never have my quiet house again.
I will never have my alone time again.
I will never have my dance parties in my room again.
I will never be able to flirt with random strangers at the bar again.
Let’s be honest those are things I’m simply not ok with giving up right now. Then it hit me, how much I actually like being single. Sure, I’ll complain about being alone, or how my life would be easier with a guy in it, but in reality I love my life. I love the fact that I don’t have to take care of anyone. I love that I don’t have to wake up to a screaming baby. I love that I can just come home, watch Sex and the City, drink wine, and go to bed.
I love the fact that my house is always clean because there isn’t a guy that I have to pick up after. I love that I can do what I want when I want. I don’t have to consult anyone. I don’t have to center my plans around another person. I don’t have to deal with a guy that cheats on me. I don’t have to deal with a guy who sits around on the couch all day.
But, I won’t always be able to do this.
There will come a time where the simplicity of my life comes to an end. I realized how much I need to enjoy and take advantage of this because it won’t be like this forever. I won’t always be able to put myself first and pursue my dreams like I have been.
So, I decided that I’m going to enjoy this while I can. I say this, because before I know it, there will a ring on my finger, a dog barking to be let out, and a screaming baby. And at that moment, I’m going to look back on the simple days and smile.
While I am excited for the day I get to meet my future husband. I am enjoying the now. I am enjoying the simplicity. I’m going to stop searching for the one, and focus on my one and only (me.) I know we all want our prince charming. Instead, let’s be happy for once and live in the moment. Let’s enjoy the time we have now because we will never have it again. Your friends might be in committed relationships or getting engaged and that’s great, but just remember, a relationship doesn’t define your happiness.