Here’s Why Loving Too Much Isn’t As Bad As You Think

You’ve begun to think that there is something wrong with you. You have been told that you come across as needy and clingy and that your love is actually suffocating instead of pleasurable. You didn’t believe in something as too much love. In fact, love is essential to life, so you always figured, the more love you give the better it is, right?

When someone came and told you that your love was getting too much for them, it actually blew your mind; those words felt alien to you.

To you, there is nothing like a mediocre love. You should love and be loved unconditionally, that’s when the feeling is truly justified; so you tend to love what is perceived as too much. People make it sound like being the person who loves too much is a bad thing. However, what they don’t realize is that it’s actually the right amount.

Love should be aggressive and consume in its truest sense.

And that is what differentiates your love and makes you special. Nowadays, people are too scared and selfish with respect to love. They want to experience the feeling but are too scared of being hurt. However, that is true love. It is intense; it isn’t convenient and average, as it shouldn’t be. Mind you, it hurts a lot, but the pain also seems worth it at the end.

You understand what a special gift love really is. You have gotten hurt many times and will continue to get hurt, however, that has never stopped you from loving too much. You somehow never seem to run out of giving people the love you carry in your heart. People like you are very rare and essential in this world that only knows to hold back in the name of love. Even though people may have told you otherwise, please realize that there is nothing wrong with you. Loving too much or too soon doesn’t make you easy, it just makes you the person that realizes the importance of love.

People who move with their heart on a sleeve are bound to get hurt. However, don’t let a few bad experiences change you. Although, please know your worth. You deserve the very best. Loving greatly is one thing but having your feelings abused isn’t right either. Know who actually deserves the love you have to offer and who doesn’t know when it’s time to walk away. We all learn the hard way, I did too. However, your love is too special and scarce to be wasted on someone who doesn’t deserve it.

People like us tend to get hurt because we tend to be what I call ‘overly faithful.’ Don’t get me wrong, by no means am I saying being faithful is bad, in fact, it is the foundation of a relationship. What you don’t realize is that you are single until you are in a committed relationship. There is no smartness in putting all your eggs in one basket especially when the basket isn’t reliable, to begin with. The reason we get hurt is that we consider the pre-dating phase to be the real deal and when things don’t follow through the way we expect our heartbreaks. Don’t do this to yourself. Don’t assume this other person to feel the same way, just be cautious, there’s no fun in having your heartbroken.

You are a strong person and don’t ever think otherwise. You don’t need another person to complete you, but you also realize the dearth of love in today’s world so never fall short of giving it out. If giving too much means getting hurt, then so be it. Realize that it takes a really strong person to be able to conceive the love you have to offer. The pain and wait will be worth it for the right person. Loving too much doesn’t mean losing yourself or your sense of identity. Genuine love can only be provided by a strong person who knows their self-worth and doesn’t need another human, but in fact, realizes how love can blossom the lives of two beings while still holding onto their individual identities. Always remember, Mae West once said, “Too much of a good thing is wonderful.”

Featured image via Sharon McCutcheon on Unsplash


  1. I totally needed to read this. I’m currently dating someone who wears his heart on his sleeve and can be suffocatingly sweet, I find it difficult to reciprocate and struggle with being that way myself because I’m more guarded. I’ve tried nicely mentioning to him to cool it down, but after reading this, I don’t ever want him to feel like he shouldn’t love with all he has? How do I become more comfortable with the idea, without silencing his feelings?

  2. Really awesome article it felt like you were talking about me I mean how perfectly balanced, nuanced and neutral this article is !!!!


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