Why Having Small Boobs Shouldn’t Make You Feel Any Less Sexy

When I was in seventh grade, I noticed a remarkable phenomenon; my boobs started growing! I was excited to finally have something there. Unfortunately, that was not the start, but rather the end of them growing. I am as small as they come. A 32A…how embarrassing. I feel like I should still be wearing a training bra or something. I mean, what am I going to do? Get a boob job? (Well…maybe). When I talk about being a girl with small boobs,

I mean no boobs.

If you have a B cup, in my books you’re blessed. When you have small boobs people may try to compliment you with things like ‘Oh, but they make you look really skinny’. Are you freaking kidding me? ‘They will get bigger, trust me.’ Except, I am 23. No, they won’t. My personal favorite ‘You can wear anything you want’ Yeah you’r right, I can…but I will look like a 12 year old boy while I’m at it.

The fact is, it’s really hard to feel sexy when you don’t have boobs. You feel inferior to others. For instance, I love boating, but I hate taking pictures when I’m in a bikini. I don’t hate my body, and I have confidence, but it’s harder to maintain that confidence when everyone in the picture has boobs except for you. You could be a total 10, but you know guys are noticing that you are the one that is lacking up top. I can’t begin to tell you how many articles I’ve read about getting a bikini that will flatter your small chest. None of them work, and to be honest, I end up crying in the dressing room each spring.

A lot of clothes are not flattering on me. Most clothes actually emphasize how small my boobs truly are. Where there should be cleavage, there is just a bra…and it sucks. Some girls have suggested a push up bra. I went to Victoria Secret and tried on every single one, but sadly it doesn’t work if there is nothing to push up. There is a common misconception that small chested women can go everywhere without a bra. We can, but we look like we are in elementary school.

Let’s get on a subject that is close to every woman’s heart, men. We should be confident in who we are, but let’s face it; What guys say to us is very influential. It can completely make our day or leave a huge scar on our ego. A guy told me once that I didn’t have boobs. Of course, I just laughed it off, what else was I supposed to do? Cry? Well, I did a lot of that later. What about when you’re kissing a really hot guy and you know he is going to feel you up? Well, the only thing he is going to be grabbing is your bra. I am hoping at this point he can’t tell the difference. You’ll never let a guy take your shirt off because you know he’ll be looking forward to boobs.

Boobs that don’t exist.

I wish I had a great all-encompassing piece of advice that would make you small-chested beauties out there see yourself in a more positive light. I wish I could make you see how beautiful you are. I wish society wouldn’t focus so much on boobs. But I can’t change those things. My only hope is that you can see yourself for more than your body, and that you can accept the truly smart, kind, and extraordinary person you have the potential to live up to. Those things are within your power. And as for the boobs? F*ck it, and let those puppies free.

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7 COMMENTS

  1. Hey finally I’m glad someone encompassed exactly how I feel. I’m a 20 with a 34A and as much as people tell me i shouldn’t care, I do. This entire post has been my whole life thank you for letting me not feel alone

  2. Don’t get implants. They are ALL toxic at some point. There are thousands who get very ill from them and the rest well they are just ignoring the signs because they are vain. I had implants for 9 years, saline because they were “safest” but not true. They are out now and that costed more than putting them in and now I have an even less attractive chest then before I started. I was a 32 AA before went to a full B now without implants I’m concave and no breast.

  3. Advice on men – certain guys/cultures prefer butts. Find them instead! I’ve always been self conscious of my A cups but some guys, including my husband, really don’t give a sh** about your boob size cuz that’s not what they’re attracted to.

  4. This sums up everything I’ve felt my whole life all the way to literally saying that I look like a malnourished 12-year old boy. I’m 25 and have been told that they will still grow….hmmm. Thank you for your post, it is very empowering!

  5. I feel exactly the same way that you all do. It’s humiliating to be a woman without half of the physical attributes that associate you as one! No matter what anyone said, trying to butter me up about it, I don’t believe a friggin word of it because they either HAVE breasts or that person is a guy and doesn’t understand. And why don’t I believe the men who say this? Well gee, because I’m not stupid.
    The only advice I have as a 33 year old woman with 32A breasts is to accept the fact that God forgot something and to try not to dwell on it. Remember how many of us out there that are going through the same things, many of us with cancer even without so much as a nipple (true survivors), and just try to live life to the fullest without them! It sucks, yes. But count your other blessings and…..BELIEVE YOU’RE NOT ALONE OUT THERE! I love you all.

  6. I want to say something to every woman out there that think because they have small or indeed apparently what some may refer to a boobless breasts, you are absolutely perfect! I am a man who sees small or very small breasted women as the most exotic beautiful creatures God ever graced the earth with. I have had occasion to have respectfully experienced intimacy were large breasted women and for me personally, those Hooters were far, far to much to handle or even to look at! I know you’re saying: “Well, he’s a guy, what the hell does he know” right? Well you’re right I am a guy, all guy, all day so I’ll tell you this! When I see a mature grown woman with small breasts I for one see the ultimate in beauty! Girls let me say it out loud “Flaunt what you don’t think you have but you do” men like me adore women like you! So hoping to meet you, that would make my dream come true.

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