5 Reasons Oversharing Could Damage Your Relationship

In the era of social media, it’s very easy to get caught up in all the hype of wanting to share what’s going on in your life. It’s also very easy to look for solutions to all your problems on the internet. I see numerous articles giving girls advice about their relationships and how to solve “common” relationship problems. As much as it is tempting to read all these articles and ask your friends for advice, it might not be the best thing for your relationship. Comparing yourself to someone else’s idea of normal should not be a priority in your relationship. Your relationship should not have rules and it should not be defined by some set of ideas from another. You should not overthink every little detail of your relationship because every relationship is different. It is great to share some details of your personal life with your friends, however, oversharing might not be the best idea. Here are five reasons why keeping your relationship private might work wonders for you in the long run.

1. You will feel pressured to define the relationship

Some people are an open book. They love to share details of their life with friends. If they have a date, everyone in their immediate circle knows about it right away. Sometimes sharing this much information with your friends might not be the best idea. Now knowing that you started dating someone, this will make it the subject of all your next conversations. Your friends will wonder how things are going with the two of you, how things are moving along, or where the relationship is going. This can be problematic because it can put pressure on you to define the relationship with the person that you are with. This puts you in the spotlight and now you have a timeline that you have to adjust to. Your friends might urge you to define the relationship before you are ready.

2. Unnecessary advice

If you tell your friends everything about your relationship, get ready to hear some unsolicited advice. Even though it’s always tempting to hear the other side or to have someone support you when you are overreacting about a certain issue, sometimes it is wiser to just cool off and think things over by yourself. You shouldn’t base your relationship on stereotypes or clichés that you might hear from your friends.  

3. Judgment

When you talk to your friends about your relationship, you could unintentionally start looking for their approval. People involuntarily judge you and your actions. If you think it is okay to hook up on the first date, that’s your decision and you have every right to do that. But if your friend doesn’t approve of that, this might cause some unnecessary tension between the two of you. Your friend might judge you for what you have done even if she/he doesn’t intend to.

4. Unnecessary comparisons

Oversharing certain things with your friends can cause some involuntary comparisons. Your friends can get jealous of your relationship, which can put a strain on your friendship. Let’s face it, no one likes a show-off. On the other hand, your friend might think that your relationship is not good enough for you by comparing it to her own. In reality, we all need different things out of a relationship and comparisons can be irrelevant.

5. Overthinking your problems

When you share your relationship problems with others, you might start to overthink the issue at hand. When you relate things to your friend, both of you might overanalyze the whole situation by going over every single detail that happened. Sometimes it is best just to calm down and put the issue aside.

The next time you want to kiss and tell, reconsider. Sharing can be good but oversharing can become a problem. Sometimes you’re better off just taking some time to cool off when you are facing an issue with your SO, instead of running to your friends for some advice. You and your partner should be the only two people in charge of the relationship.

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