I think the majority of girls have been in toxic relationships, or have been with a guy who didn’t value them for who they really are. After these heartbreaks, we sometimes wish that we would have never met that f*ck boy, to begin with. At least that way, we wouldn’t have had our hearts broken. On the other hand, I think every girl needs to date a douche at least once in her life, to really realize what type of guy not to fall for and to understand her priorities better. Here are five reasons why you shouldn’t regret that toxic relationship and see it just as a waste of time.
- You will end up having different expectations
No one wants to settle, and we all have certain expectations that we want our partner to meet. Once you date a douche, however, these expectations will change. It’s important to understand that there are a lot of great guys out there but our expectations or stereotypes stop us make a connection with them. I’m not saying to let go of your standards completely but, broadening them might be a smart idea.
- You learn how to say “no”
Being able to say “no” is definitely something that everyone needs to learn to do. After you realize that he is a f*ck boy and he doesn’t deserve you, it will be easier to say “no” to anything that you are not comfortable with in other relationships that you will have. This is a great opportunity to find your voice once again and focus on yourself and what you want instead of prioritizing someone else. This is a difficult lesson to learn, but it will pay off in the long run. Now, you will only look for a relationship that you feel completely comfortable in.
- You will know the type
Next time you meet a douche you will already know not to fall for that type. You will see the common habits and actions and recognize the fact that it’s best to let this person go from your life early on instead of getting attached. It’s great to get the bad boy phase out of your system so that the dangerous type won’t be your type anymore.
- You will figure out your priorities
If you became distant with your friends because they never supported your toxic relationship, you might want to listen to their advice the next time around. Or if you spent all your time with your partner who didn’t accommodate you in any way, you won’t make someone else’s schedule your priority. When you are in a toxic relationship, you can get blinded by your emotions. It’s important to understand that your relationship is not everything, and getting hurt could be a wake-up call.
- You won’t be scared to leave anymore
If you let go of someone who was toxic to you, it will be easier to understand when a relationship is not going anywhere. You will learn that there are much better people out there other than the douche that you have been dating. Leaving and putting yourself out there is one of the hardest things to do, but it will all pay off in the end.
We have all met a f*ck boy. Sometimes we regret our relationships because they caused us unnecessary pain, but I think that they were life lessons, which should not be taken for granted. I think we all have to meet and fall in love with at least one bad boy in order to take away things from that relationship and learn more about ourselves. So don’t think of your failed relationship or an attempt at a relationship as a failure, think of it as a prerequisite class that everyone has to take before they can truly find someone great.