If you’re serious about meeting your soulmate, then you need to stop dating the wrong guys, and unfortunately, many of us fail to recognize the warning signs that indicate a relationship isn’t built to last.
There’s nothing as frustrating as waiting for your soulmate. To help you avoid wasting your time and spare you from heartbreak, here are 10 definite signs that your partner is NOT your “Soulmate.”
1. You can’t trust them
If you don’t believe the things your partner tells you or are always questioning his motives and his whereabouts, there is something majorly amiss. Either you got jealousy issues that you need to work out, or he is doing some shady stuff. If you are always acting like Sherlock Holmes with your partner and have trust issues, there’s no future in your relationship. You can’t spend your life constantly on the lookout, that’s just exhausting. A soulmate will respect your relationship, even when you’re not around.
Without trust, there is no relationship. Period
2. You don’t have good communication
Communication in a relationship is very important. Communication is one of the most essential ways we connect, and it’s how you keep a healthy relationship. Without having good communication with your partner, it can make it hard for a relationship to work long term. A soulmate will listen to you vent about the same things over and over again without any complaints.
3. You don’t have a deep connection
You need to know your partner intimately and this goes way beyond your sex life. You need to know who he is, what he wants in life, what his goals, dreams, and fears are. If you don’t feel like you guys are connecting in a significant way, then it means he’s probably not that invested in your or the relationship.
4. You’re not yourself when you’re around them
If when you are around them, you feel like you can’t be yourself, he makes you regularly anxious, stressed out, are always fighting and brings the worst out of you, he is not the right person. I’m not claiming that women can’t be a bit emotionally unstable on their own. It’s important to make sure you’re not changing who you are just to make your partner happy. Also, your partner should want to make you feel happy and loved, not stressed and sad. Don’t forget to stay true to yourself.
5. No common values
Everyone’s values are different. Every relationship involves compromise, but if your values are too different than your partner’s, you will face major hurdles ahead. If his values oppose your own, it may be time to end the relationship and move on. Soulmates will have a basic, shared vision for their future.
6. You don’t have fun around them
If your partner is only interested in sitting around the house, but you want a real date night, where you both get dressed up and go out to dinner. If you’re dating someone who’s not willing to compromise or try anything new. There’s no activity you can both agree on, so you usually end up doing nothing. If the sense of adventure and having fun has disappeared after the honeymoon phase, then you why are you even dating this person? You need a guy who’s willing to try out new date ideas to keep you guessing.
7. He doesn’t enhance your life
You deserve someone who helps your personal growth and makes you feel like you have endless potential. A soulmate will show you a better side of life – a side that you didn’t even know existed and is the person who introduces you to a better way of living. If your partner doesn’t enhance your life, you should be with someone who does. Your soulmate should make you see your potential when you don’t feel confident.
8. You are complete opposites
If he likes staying indoors, while you like spending as much time outdoors as possible. You want kids, but he doesn’t, he likes pets, but you don’t. You don’t have to date someone who’s just like you, but you don’t want them to be your polar opposite. Differences are fine if you can find a middle ground. But there are some things you may not be willing to compromise on.
9. You can picture yourself with other people
You can find others physically attractive, it’s completely normal, we are humans, but if you can picture yourself with other people, have doubts and there have been times you’ve wished you weren’t in a relationship, just so you could explore other interests, that’s a red flag you need to consider. If he was really “the one,” the idea of not being with him would make you sad and you could not picture yourself being with anyone else.
10. Well you just know
If there’s something that just feels off about the relationship and your inner guidance (your gut) letting you know he’s not the one. Listen to it. Or if you find yourself questioning whether or not he’s your soulmate? It’s probably because, you know he’s not! You may be scared to admit it, because of how “perfect” he is. It might sound cheesy, but a soulmate makes your heart skip a beat, and you will “know” when you have met your soulmate. You won’t have any doubts about it.
If you notice any of these signs in your relationship, it means he is not your “soulmate.” You may be happy with him, but not as happy as you would be if he was really the right guy for you. Make sure you’re aware of the differences! You don’t want to get wrapped up in a relationship with someone you know you’re not going to be with long-term.
Trust your intuition.
Originally published on Mitzi J Hernandez