Throughout your life you will fall in love. In fact you will fall in love often. You won’t always be loved back and it won’t always last over 3 months, because let’s face it you love too much. You are in love with the idea of love and you hold on to this idea of an endless love, one that others will see and will be envious of. Most of the time you find yourself in a one-sided relationship and that in itself always ends with you feeling devastated. I am not here to tell you to love less or to be harder to get.
My advice for you is love more.
Love with a love that you cannot explain. Fall in love with the boy who holds the door open for you or fall in love with the one you stay up late talking to. Fall in love not only with him, but with yourself. If he leaves you, that is okay. If he tells you he no longer loves you or even if he says he never did, that is okay, too. Do acts of love for him! Write him love letters, make a playlist of songs that make you think of him, or even show up outside getting his attention by throwing small pebbles at his window with a stereo playing Peter Gabriel’s “In Your Eyes” like John Cusack in Say Anything. We go through life constantly looking for good companionship, looking for something that makes each and every day a little more meaningful and exciting. We look for a reason to wake up in the morning with a complete smile on our face with something to look forward to!
All throughout my life, I loved every single boy I got into a relationship with. Often times that ended with a lot of heartache, misery, and a lot of ice cream but I can honestly say I loved having my heart-broken almost more than I loved being in love. It sounds crazy but it is true.
With every heartbreak I had, I became one more person closer to being with the one who I would spend the rest of my life with.
People will talk about how fast you jump from relationship to relationship. They will talk about how fast you fall in love. They will make you feel almost ashamed of being who you are, but, in reality, would you rather go through life wondering what ever would have happened if you told that one boy you dated that you loved him? Or would you want to know what would have happened? Being the one who loves too much doesn’t make you needy, it doesn’t mean you lack any self-respect or can’t be happy on your own. It means you simply just love and trust. Everyone deserves those two things.
I loved countless of times throughout my 22 years of life. I have loved and I have lost, but what being the girl who loved too much taught me, was it taught me to not be afraid to love the boy I met on a friend’s front porch and because of that reason, I am married to the love of my life with a beautiful son, who I will teach that it is okay to love often and to love hard, because without love, we would be nothing.
Featured image via Chloe O’loren.