You thought you had a connection with them, an undeniable spark, so you eagerly await their response, nonchalantly pretending that you don’t care if they message you back. You wait for hours, lingering over your phone as casually as you possibly can, convincing yourself that you’re OK. But as the hours stretch into days, you have to face the truth: They ghosted you, and you never saw it coming.
The inevitable questions flood your mind. What happened? Why does this always happen to me? Will I ever find love? But instead of ruminating on your present and future fate, chart a course for yourself to heal and move forward.
When they ghost you unexpectedly, don’t wait for them to change their mind.
Don’t test the waters with a risky text, hoping that they’ll finally run to you because they have no one left. If they refuse to give you their time and attention, they aren’t worth yours — the stars have someone far better in store for you. Someone will lavish you with love and care when you feel lonely instead of pushing you away.
When they ghost you unexpectedly, carry on with your life.
Instead of constantly fixating on your phone to check if they’re still reading your messages or watching your Stories, give yourself the care you deserve. Take a warm bath, sip some wine, journal through your heartbreak, or vent to the friends who never leave your side. With every moment that passes, you will remove yourself further and further from them until the joy of truly living is all you can remember.
When they ghost you unexpectedly, remember that you are still worthy of love.
Know that you deserve someone who genuinely connects with you on a soul-deep level, who won’t leave your side when life becomes overwhelming. Understand that finding your forever person means falling for the wrong people again and again, treating yourself with kindness when you’re mistreated, and learning, growing, and healing until you are truly ready to love. When the time is right, someone will come into your life and fulfill everything you crave, filling you with love, light, and confidence that they’ll never let you go.
When they ghost you unexpectedly, keep living.
Don’t whittle your life away trying to catch their attention; heal your wounds and move forward with an open heart. They may have ghosted you, but the right person will never leave. They’ll stay by your side for eternity and live by their words every day of your life.
Previously published on Thought Catalog.