Why People Need To Stop Assuming I Want A Relationship

I have reached this age where I feel as though it’s not my biological clock that is ticking, but everyone else’s around me. It’s as if theirs are ticking loudly enough to remind me that mine is going to dry up fast if I don’t put some Energizer batteries (or something else) into it fast. It’s as if I don’t remember that I’m thirty, flirty, and super single that they feel this need to wish good vibes on me and hope that I will find the man of my dreams sooner rather than later. Why is it that everyone feels the need to wish me luck in finding a man on a daily basis?

I have been single for a while now, there is no need to remind me how long, but it doesn’t matter where I’m going, someone always seems to think that I might find the man of my dreams there. Going to the park for a run will be attending a concert, doing a grocery store to pick up some tampons, Prince Charming might be in the same aisle with me picking up Midol for his sister. Why is it that I have to be reminded that I’m single and could find a man at any time in any place?

I’m not one to think this way – Oh funny story, your brother and I met over your ovaries trying to escape your body, thanks! While I’m a hopeless romantic and would love to have a meet quo like one in a movie, I’m realistic. I would like to go through my daily life and not have to worry that at any moment Prince Charming could be around the corner while I’m wearing no makeup, my seventh-grade NSYNC t-shirt, and desperately searching for the last pint of Ben and Jerry’s Phish Food ice cream at the supermarket. Why is everyone but myself so worried about my lack of a relationship status?

I’m not concerned anymore because I’m happy. I’m content being on my own, doing my own thing, preparing for a future with my dog and myself because quite frankly, I don’t need a man. I like being single and being able to do whatever I want. I have also proven that I am fully capable of being happy in my own single shoes, so where does everything think a man is needed? I have been doing quite fine on my own for the last how many years, why does everyone feel that a man needs come into the picture to make it all better?

What I’m trying to say is, if your friends are single and comfortable, don’t feel the need to remind them of their singleness day in and day out. We are fully aware that our Facebook relationship status has not changed and that we have the bed to ourselves, so why do you feel the need that we need to change it? If they are single and happy, let them be single and happy. It is their life, let them feel free to live it as they please!

Featured image via Anthony Tran on Unsplash


  1. Nothing more annoying than people assuming a man is what makes a woman whole.. or vice versa. Some of us are just hermits and people need to accept it and move on.. lol.


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