Love can seem pretty complicated, but knowing how to speak someone’s love language in a relationship can be simple if you know where to start!
There’s a lot of relationship advice out there about how to make someone fall in love with you, but if you want a healthy relationship built on love and trust, then the best relationship goals you can create starts with falling in love.
Making a woman fall in love can first begin with a series of small actions that might seem inconsequential to you, but add up to a lot over time!
There are certain things you can do that will certainly win you “brownie points,” no matter what phase of your relationship you’re in.
Some of the things on this list will work well when you are first dating. Others are things to think about when you’ve been together for a little while. Then there are the things that you probably forget about, having been together so long, that will bring the spark back into your love life again.
Here are 15 small actions you can do in a relationship that will make a woman fall in love with you:
1. Say please and thank you.
Yes, it’s one of those simple things that your mother probably drummed into you when you were little, but it has a big impact.
Do you remember to do it every time you’re around your woman? I’m guessing probably not. You’re in too much of a hurry and it’s a little thing. But if you try it out, you’ll realize it’s a big thing.
Your love quotient with her will rise when you remember to do this often. It’s so small but shows a ton of respect; it will help her fall in love with you in no time.
2. Wear well-fitting clothes.
There is nothing sexier than a man wearing well-fitting clothes. Smoking hot is my experience of it! A woman just wants to be with you forever when you wear clothes that make you model material.
Women love it when men take pride in what they look like. You don’t have to wear what everyone else wears, just make them fit — that way you’re showing off that bod she loves to see. She won’t be able to keep her hands off you!
3. Remember how she likes her coffee.
You can substitute any of her favorite drinks in place of coffee, too. There is nothing that says, “I love you” more than having your favorite drink made by your man just the way you like it. And it’s even better when you didn’t ask for it and it becomes a pleasant surprise.
Take the time to notice that she might be in need of a drink, and make it for her. This may not seem like much, but it’s a simple, easy-to-do action that, when added to the other small items on this list, will make a big difference to her.
4. Ask how her day was — and actually listen to her response.
Yes, I know you’re busy with work and the boys, but she really wants someone to listen to her. She would love you to be that person.
To be truly interested in her day, let her share it with you. And I don’t mean listening while you’re texting or watching TV. That’s not it.
This is about being really connected to her and what she’s got to say. She’ll love you for it. And remember you don’t necessarily need to respond to everything she says. Maybe all she wants is a good listener. It’s so simple, yet gives you lots of plus factors because it’s that important.
5. Put the top back on the toothpaste tube.
Small things make a big difference. And there’s nothing worse for a woman if you’re the last one to use the toothpaste and you leave the tube on the sink with the lid off.
Whereas if you are the one that uses the tube and always puts the lid back on, you’re in for huge brownie points. She will love you every time you do this small thing. Remember, you’re adding all those positive things together with each small action you take.
6. Put the toilet seat down.
Guys like the lid up on the toilet and that’s now how women approach it. So, if you want to win your love’s heart, use the toilet the way you like and remember to put the seat back down.
If you don’t, there will be nothing but resentment. If you’ve ever tried to use the toilet half-asleep and fallen in, you’ll appreciate how important this is, and why it matters to her!
7. Buy the flowers she likes (not just what’s available).
I know sometimes you think the spur of the moment “let me buy her flowers” thing works. But if you can go the extra mile, it will make all the difference.
Women have their own favorite flowers, and the way to win her heart is to buy her just those. Make sure you’ve found out what her favorite flowers are and go out of your way to spontaneously buy those every so often.
8. Handwrite cards and send them to her (or leave them around for her to find).
There is nothing like a handwritten card or note to win a woman’s heart. And it doesn’t matter how bad your handwriting is, although of course, she does need to be able to read your heartfelt message.
So plan ahead and have a few witty or romantic blank cards around, and every now and then write a love message for her. Or better yet, drop it in her purse when she’s not looking. It’s the surprise of receiving it that adds to its value.
9. Put your dirty laundry in the hamper.
Aha, there is nothing a woman loves more than for her man to be clean and neat. Don’t just drop your jeans, jocks, and socks on the floor beside the bed. That’s a no-no. Even if you’re just visiting her overnight. Fold your clothes and leave them tidily someplace. And if you’re living together, this is certainly a habit you must get into.
The only way you are scoring love points for this task is if it’s consistent. You’ll get 4 points for every time you do this regularly. Otherwise, take some points off.
10. Keep appointments with her (especially for date nights).
Women love to know that you’re dependable. That’s why it’s important that when you make an appointment with her, you keep it. And if it’s a “date night” you’ve arranged, then doubly so.
You’ll make her feel extra special if you give up beer with the boys and take her to the movies. Try and fit it in at least once every couple of weeks for optimum love levels!
11. Talk about special times you’ve spent together.
Remembering those special moments you shared together and talking with her about them will certainly get you in the love space.
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She’ll love that you remembered the circumstances around the occasion, too. Talk about the walk you took in the park and the sunset you watched together. Joke about the time you picked the wrong thing from the menu at one of the new restaurants you tried.
It’s another one of those things you can do during the drive to her apartment, or when you’re out with friends, that will stick out in her memory as special — and show that you think those things are special, too.
12. Share how you’re feeling with her.
Yes, I know it’s not always easy for you to share your feelings. It might not be something you want to talk about, and yet she will certainly feel very loved and connected if you do.
You’ll show her that you want a connection and that she means something special to you. Women love it when men are vulnerable and share their true selves.
13. Know what her favorite outfit is (with you in it).
You might be surprised to know that your woman will have an outfit that she just loves seeing you in. For me, it was my man in his suit. Hot, hot, hot.
So pay attention to what she says when you get dressed up. She might love you the most in your thigh-hugging jeans and a dark blue t-shirt that shows off your muscles. Find out what your outfit is and wear it often. Not too often — then it’s obvious you’re trying to win love points! Still, wear it often enough that she’s swooning over you.
14. Take photos of her many moods (together or with just her in them).
You might not like to have your photo taken, and she might say she doesn’t either, but women love you to love them. If you want to take snaps of moments you’re together, whether that’s at the café having breakfast, or when you’re on a beach walk, or simply sitting snuggled on the sofa watching a movie, grab the moment.
She’ll appreciate that you want to capture her in all her moods. And if you change the photos on your phones screen saver, then all the better. Most women, unless they’re totally extroverted, won’t tell you this is something they appreciate. Take it from me, the one who was always taking the photos of my partner, I wanted him to be snapping photos of me, too.
15. Clean (your apartment or hers) after a party or get-together.
If you’re interested in helping her clean, especially after you’ve had a joint party at her place, then she will love you forever.
This is one of those tasks that she’ll tell you can wait until the morning and in honesty, if you help her do it straight away, it leaves time for you both to sleep in and enjoy brunch instead of waking up to a mess.
If you make an effort with small things like this, she’ll be blown away with your thoughtfulness!