There are times when relationships come to an end. Whether you were ready for it or not, it hurts. Then comes wanting to seek revenge on the person who hurt those feelings. But if I have learned anything in this life, it’s don’t. Don’t go Carrie Underwood on them and slash a hole in all four tires. Don’t bother with nasty texts or writing Facebook posts that are passive aggressive. In the end, it only makes you look petty. It’s also not good for you as a whole. There is no need for that negative energy consuming your thoughts, judgments, and life. And maybe you’re wondering but how do I get the closure when I run into that person again? I know the strong urge to call them an asshole and give them a middle finger. But there is a better answer to that. The best advice I’ve ever received to answer that is to kill them with kindness.
It’s harder to execute this but trust me you will forever love yourself for doing it. It allows you to move past it sooner. Anger and aggression only make you harbor those hard feelings longer. When you walk up to them and say “Hey, how are you?” With a smile is the moment you are truly beginning to move on. Things are a lot easier in the long run to utilize this method.
I am a strong believer that you can maintain friendliness with exes (whether that be an ex-boyfriend, ex-fling or ex-friend). Because you did at one time share something special and meaningful with that person. Hearing what is new in their life and letting them hear the same in return is refreshing. When you choose to use your middle finger in their direction the mood is different. There is the strong urge to dodge them when you see them in public. But why would you want to feel awkward and want to flee a place just because a past whatever is there?
This brings me back to my point. Kindness allows that freedom. The freedom to be surrounded with positive energy. The freedom to roam freely. The freedom to move on.
So, tell me which way would you prefer?