Change is one of the scariest things any person can experience. For most of us, it means a loss of control or deviation from how things already are. However, change isn’t bad in all circumstances; it’s absolutely essential to growing up. Letting go is one change no one wants to experience in the course of life. We are always so paranoid about the fact that things, people, or situations won’t remain the same, and so we tend to cling to them. In certain situations, not letting go is like a cancer, the more you keep it with you, the more it eats you up internally and finishes you.
I used to be one of those people, scared to lose control, terrified of letting go. There were certain relationships in my life that were eating me up from within. However, I chose to keep them anyway since I thought I don’t want to lose the little bit I had, not realizing that I actually had nothing at all. Letting go wouldn’t change anything since I didn’t have those people with me anyway. In fact, it was only an escape route to face reality and finally give myself a chance to move on. Below are the list of reasons why letting go will only benefit you and help you to evolve into a more peaceful person:
1. It’s an escape route to better things in life
When we are trying to hold onto something, especially that doesn’t even matter, we end up focusing our energy on just that one thing which could be used to focus on much better things in life. The moment we let go of those things, we realize there are so many positive things we can do with our time and energy.
2. It helps us realize change is not always bad
As stated before, it’s the biggest myth that change is always bad. Sometimes change is very beneficial for us to see things in a different light and to realize that we are missing out on the better things in life just because we are so focused on not changing the way things currently are, even if those things give us nothing but pain and grief.
3. Detaching yourself from people who are toxic is absolutely essential
Such people are absolutely cancerous, not literally but figuratively. It is very necessary for us to move ourselves away from such people. People that are only present in your life to give you pain are meant to be moved away from. One more minute with those people means you are moving yourself away from the positive things in life.
4. Certain people are not worth holding onto in life
It’s rightly said, people come and go, some are meant to stay and some are meant to be only in a certain chapter of your life. Embrace this reality of life. Keeping these people in your life will just increase the stress and grief, your worth much more. Give yourself some credit and move away from anyone that doesn’t treat you the way you should be treated.
5. It’s only after letting go of the negative, do we actually appreciate the positives in life
We are so focused on keeping some people in our lives, that we completely lose sight of the people who actually deserve to be in our life. We tend to run behind the wrong people and take for granted the right ones. Once we mindfully let go of the negative people, will we actually realize how much we were losing out on and how much more our life is worth. You will feel another level of empowerment, which everyone deserves.
6. It gives you the power to move on in life and not have yourself taken for granted by the other person
When someone treats you badly and you still hold onto them, they are going to take you for granted. You help them realize that as badly as they treat you, you are so attached to them, that you would do anything to try to keep them by your side. Reality Check! Whether you let go or not, they aren’t by your side anyway. So would you rather be with people who matter or with people that use you as a backup?
7. You are able to see the bigger picture in life
Once you actually move focus from those people is when you can concentrate on the bigger picture of life: the relationships that actually matter, the people who truly care for you, the real happiness and pain in life.
8. You miss out of the right people by holding onto the wrong ones
If we don’t make our hearts strong and continue to hold onto the wrong people, we will miss out on the right people we have in life. Our focus should only be on the things and people who make us happy and move our focus far away from the people and things that don’t. Some people love to bring you down – that’s what they do best. It’s up to you to make that hard choice of realizing what is right for you and what is wrong, who to be with and who not to.
Thus, I cannot emphasize how important it is to move away from the people who don’t help you grow, be it a friend or a significant other. We need to remind ourselves that we are more important than anyone else and the person that cannot treat us the way we should be treated, isn’t meant to be in our lives. Mind you, the day you realize that, it will be the biggest lesson you have learned. We like the thought at the back of our minds that if we let things be the way they are, we at least won’t lose the person that matters to us entirely. What we don’t realize is, we don’t have that person when we need them anyway, and it’s only us who will be there when they need us. This isn’t the foundation of any healthy relationship and thus it’s best if we focus our energies on making foundations that will actually last with people who deserve to be in our lives. Always remember,
“Holding back onto anything is like holding on to your breath; you will suffocate. The only way to get anything in the universe is by letting go of it. Let go and it will be yours forever.”
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