I am a big believer in fate. I really do believe that everything happens for a reason. There isn’t necessarily a religious reason behind this, I just truly believe that there’s a larger force at work that determines our actions, and the people and happenings in our lives.
I’m not saying that we have no say in what happens in our lives. We still make decisions. We still choose to act the way we do. I’m just saying that sometimes, fate might step in and alter our decisions. Or sometimes we make a decision and fate will readjust in accordance with the decision.
The most frustrating part about believing in fate is waiting for answers. Essentially, that’s what believing in fate is: you want answers and explanations for everyone and their behavior. Everyone is in your life for a reason, and they’re here to teach you something. Some people will stay, but many of them will go once their job is done. They can leave at any time.
Sometimes, the explanation is pretty clear. You realize right away why someone is in your life. Other times, you can’t understand if they are someone who will stay or who will go. You don’t know why they are here, and often times, long after they are gone, you still won’t know why. You’ll bounce ideas around in your head more than you should until you come to an answer that seemingly fits and it’ll just click.
When someone in your life is meant to leave, that’s hard. You spend so much time hoping and praying that they will be someone who will stay, but fate has bigger plans. Wanting someone to stay when they are meant to leave is an energy-draining heartbreak that seems to last forever. But it doesn’t, this, too, shall pass. Even if you get the courage to outright ask them to stay, it won’t be enough.
This is okay, though. Do you really think that fate would take something so wonderful and important in your life without giving you something better, more important, and more meaningful? Life is about learning. The more you experience, the more you learn, the stronger you become.
When fate takes someone from you, it won’t seem fair. Reassure yourself that this will make you a much stronger person in the long run.
Fate has a tool: it’s called your gut. It’s that feeling you get deep down when you just know that you should go somewhere or see someone. Follow your gut feeling. It knows more than you do. If it changes your life, let it. If it doesn’t, that’s just one more experience under your belt.
The thing about believing in fate is that once you understand it, and understand someone’s purpose in your life, you’re able to do so much more. You’re able to more fully appreciate those who stayed. You’re able to move on from those who left. You can’t be mad at those who left. They taught you something, did their job, and then left just like they were meant to.
My favorite part of fate is the feelings it gives you. I love the feeling that something wonderful is coming. When someone makes the exit out of my life, I don’t always grieve, because fate is whispering in my ear that they will be back. I don’t wait around; I just simply give them the time to work with the fate in their own lives. There are more lives in this world than just yours, and fate can’t always go your way. Sometimes you will be the bug, and sometimes you will be the windshield. That’s how it works, but it will eventually get better and always turns out as it should.
So next time that you’re down on your luck, look at your situation from a different perspective. Ask yourself: “What am I supposed to learn from this?” You would be surprised how quickly you can change your attitude and situation. It might even change your life.
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