Unfortunately, it’s sometimes difficult for women to find a place where they feel safe enough to be free and authentic. When we go out with friends, we often feel the need to watch over our backs and be constantly aware of where we set our drinks down, what we say, and who we are around. When we go to the gym, we have to worry about getting stared at or “played down” for our physical abilities. And when we go to the auto repair shop, some mechanics feel they can trick us into spending extra money for services that may not be needed or quoted at a much higher price.
Though these things can be aggravating, there is hope. There seems to be a stronger initiative made to create safe spaces for women in all areas to promote more inclusive and less threatening environments. Here are a few examples:
1. Career Moves
Recently, many companies have worked to ensure they are promoting more DEIB (Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Belonging) in their workplace. This helps eliminate stigmas based on gender, sexual orientation, race, religion, or any other socio-economic status. Revamped mission statements, designated champions, and workplace training can help create a more inclusive workspace for all.
2. Community Spaces
Finding a space to mingle with like-minded individuals and form connections and friendships is pivotal for one’s social safety and well-being. You can find spaces to do that by looking at some websites and reading their missions or checking out their social media. Do they display an accepting mission statement? Ask around. Others in the community who have been around more will usually have a good feel of the type of space and who would be comfortable attending.
3. Online Communities
Though we know nothing beats in-person connections, meeting others online can help create a community that wouldn’t be possible otherwise. Finding a connection with someone who lives across the world is fascinating. Although online communities can sometimes lead to bullying, the anonymity and comfort of creating connections from the comfort of home can be riveting for others.
4. Finding Connection Through Justice
When women have encountered something traumatizing, a strong support system and the knowledge that they’re not alone can be essential in their healing journey. An article from Shondaland discusses a model created by Dr. Alissa Ackerman-Acklin that focuses on healing from sexual abuse and creating a safe space for women. This can be an amazing catalyst that can hopefully be carried into many different areas.
5. Fitness Centers
When we work out and try new things, we want a space where we don’t feel judged. When we walk into a gym or fitness studio, we want to feel welcomed and supported. We want people to encourage and inspire us. We also want to see a diverse group of people.
According to a recent article from Forbes Health, using social media can be a great way to find out how the gym you’re considering scores in terms of diversity. You can try using hashtags like #PlusSizePersonalTrainer, #BodyPositiveGym, #InclusiveFitness, and similar. You can also call the gym and arrange a visit before committing to a membership.
6. Places of Worship
Women want to find a place of worship where they feel a sense of belonging. They want to feel supported by a congregation, have the ability to speak up and advocate their needs, and create connection and purpose. Finding an inclusive and welcoming church can be difficult. But digging into their mission and evaluating the crowds you see attending can give you some insight into that worship center’s missions and values. Browsing online (Human Rights Campaign has a faith resources page) and asking like-minded individuals in the community can also be helpful in this area.
Community is an essential part of our being. It is a way to ensure we are caring for our whole selves. Do you have any helpful tips for finding an accepting community where you can be your authentic self? Let us know in the comments below!
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