If you are in your late 20s to early 30s, a lot of your friends are probably starting their own families. If your friend has just become a mom, she’s probably going through and adjusting to a lot.
Her body is surging with hormones, she is probably experiencing residual pain from labor, and her blood pressure and joint pain may be increased. Reaching out and letting her know she’s not alone can make a world of difference.
Here are a few simple ways you can let her know she’s got someone in her corner.
1. Offer to run an errand.
When you’re tired, caring for a newborn, and still trying to maintain your everyday activities, the thought of getting the baby in the car and going to drop off dry-cleaning or pick up a few groceries can seem like an impossible feat. Offer to run an errand for her and incorporate it into yours. You’ll be a hero in her eyes.
2. Help her assemble baby gear.
We’ve all seen the movies where people are trying to put together a crib or a stroller and it becomes extremely aggravating. As mentioned above, when hormones are surging and sleep is rare, these tasks may seem a lot more tedious.
Help to assemble what she needs or read the instruction manual with her to make sense of it together. Help get the car seat assembled or even swing her car by the fire department and get it safety-checked.
3. Change her scenery.
Doing the same thing in the same place every day can quickly become monotonous. Get mom out even if it’s for a quick stroll around the neighborhood to see some different sights and sounds. Bring her flowers to put on her table to brighten up her environment.
4. Drop off a meal.
Do you know what her favorite is? She can probably use some comfort in this time. Bring a casserole that can last a few days and check meal-prepping off of her list. You can even bring some fresh fruit and easy-to-grab snack items so she’s always got something within reach.
5. When in doubt: Diapers!
Babies use the bathroom A LOT. It is known in the mom world that you can feel like you’ve just bought diapers and you’re already needing more. Drop off some diapers and a pack of wipes and she’ll be most appreciative.
6. Let her know she’s not alone.
Just reaching out, giving her someone to talk to, or suggesting a funny show to watch while she’s rocking the baby can help her to feel less alone. She may switch conversation subjects to ones you’re not familiar with if you’re not a parent, but again, just being a support is a huge help in itself.
Mamas out there — we see you and how fierce you are. Your strength and perseverance are truly admirable. You’re unsung heroes for sure and just know that you’ve got people in your corner.
If you’re a mom, share below what would have helped or did help you when you first came home with the baby!