If you think about it, you are the person you spend the most time with. You are with yourself all day and all night. No matter who else is around or what is going on, you are always there. So you might as well enjoy your company. But sometimes that is difficult. I know I have always struggled with accepting who I am. There is nothing wrong with wanting to change, but at some point, you have to look at yourself and start being able to see the beauty in who you already are. It’s easy to compare ourselves to others and wish we could be more like them, but no one is ever really who they seem. We all have areas in our lives that we wish we could change.
Here are four things to look for when you are trying to accept who you are.
1. Focus on your positive qualities
While self-improvement is a necessary part of life, everyone has qualities about themselves that are good and worth noticing. Being able to tell others what these positive qualities are is part of accepting yourself. You will begin feeling more confident once you start seeing that there are things about yourself that you like. This will help you work on the qualities you don’t like even more. Instead of only focusing on the negative, try making everything a positive.
2. Understand that you are not perfect
No one is perfect. We all have flaws. We need to accept our imperfections and understand that those are just as important to who we are as the things that we like about ourselves. Once you accept that you are not perfect, you are more likely to be able to accept who you are. There are always going to be things about yourself that you don’t like, but that you can’t necessarily change. Instead of dwelling on them, learn to accept them.
3. Don’t focus on others so much
There are always going to be people who don’t accept you or have negative opinions on decisions you make. But you can’t give them too much attention. You have to learn that you know what is best for you. You know your wants and needs more than anyone else does and you have to learn to focus on that. Don’t buy into what others are saying. Give yourself some credit and make your own decisions.
4. Do your best
There is no better way to accept yourself than to do your best. Even if your best isn’t good enough for other people, knowing that you put all of your effort into something is the best way to accept who you really are. It shows that you know what you are capable of and that you can be proud of yourself. Doing your best means you are living your life to its fullest and that is something to be happy about.
Life is not always easy and it certainly isn’t perfect. But when you learn to accept yourself, you are learning to be yourself. Continue to make decisions that make you happy and want to continue down that path. No one is perfect and improving yourself should always be a goal. But not to the point of not being able to see the beauty that is already in you. Be kind to yourself and love yourself. It’s the best way to a happy life.