As a child I used to get so annoyed by all of the freedom my guy friends and my brother were granted, , while myself and my sister felt like we were held in captivity. We weren’t allowed to walk alone at night or go out with certain groups of friends until a certain time. Our parents would always say, “it’s because you’re a woman.” We would claim their being sexist and didn’t believe in our strong will power and independence. Little did we know that we truly weren’t invincible to danger and sadly those issues are more common than we thought.
As we grew up and became aware of the issues that women face, we now understand their concern, strict rules and emphasis on safety. I’m no longer naive to the issues I used to hear about on the news because I’ve experienced them. And so have the woman closest to me. There is a list as long as my arm of things that women must do to ensure their safety that men will never have to do simply because they are in a safer situation. Here are a few of those things:
- Hold your keys like a weapon
- Check the backseat of your car
- Call someone just for the sake of having someone just in case
- Never go outside alone at night
- Lock the windows and doors in your home at all times
- Don’t drink too much
- Never put your drink down
- Watch your drink when it’s being poured
- Own a big dog for protection
- Carry perfume, hairspray, pepper spray or mase just in case you need to spray it
- Park your car in well lit areas
- Avoid parking garages if possible
- Don’t get in an elevator alone or with a large group of men
- Change your route on your way home
- Don’t use highway rest stations
- Watch what you wear
- Don’t wear headphones when out in public
- Avoid wooded areas in general
- Always go out in groups
- Never get an apartment or hotel room on the main floor
- Always meet in a public place when on a first date
- Always have cash in case you need it for an emergency ride home
- Update your friends and family on your whereabouts/plans to be safe
- Leave outside lights on every night
- Keep your blinds closed at night
- Lock the car door the second you get inside and as soon as you exit
- Send license plate information if you are getting in a car with a stranger to your friends in case
While women look at this lengthy list and can agree that they to are guilty of doing at least 80% of these when in public, men are questioning why it’s necessary to do any. Sadly they will never have to.
The more men I meet and discuss these issues with is staggering, because they genuinely think our parents were just strict for enforcing these behaviors on us. These men are too blind to see just how difficult it is to be a woman in the real world.
Men will blame these insecurities or cautionary exercises on the colour of their skin, the size or how that person is dressed. It’s not the race of a person or their behaviours that scare women in public; their gender does. Let’s be honest, men scare the hell out of us in public literally all because one dude creeped us out at one point and now their gender is tarnished.
It is extremely difficult and frustrating to not be able to go out in public without feeling unsafe. Someone walking up to your car will cause you to freeze, your speed is always trying to get faster when walking by a group of men, cars slowing down or following you, and crude and inappropriate behaviour to random strangers have all become the norm for us. It’s a crippling fear to walk down the street and feel like something is automatically going to happen to you.
These safety practices have become essential to ensure our safety on a daily basis and are part of a regular routine. Despite having to go through all of these cautions, we still feel uneasy about going in public and running into issues. Positive efforts have been made to help the uneasy feelings settle, but we can’t help it.
Until you’ve experienced the harassment, catcalls, inappropriate stares or the feeling of being watched or violated, you simply cannot relate. It is the worst feeling in the world, and you will never be the same afterwards. What’s even more twisted is that society wants to make us seem crazy or feel humiliated for making these precautions after we’ve felt violated or been harmed.
It’s important that instead of bashing women for protecting themselves in simple ways, that we encourage them to continually proceed with caution and help them in any way you can. We should also become more aware of issues when we see them, such as body language or listening to unwanted conversations. They are a lot more common than you think.
Most importantly, we should be educating young women how to defend themselves, prevent these issues to the best of their abilities, teach them these safety techniques we all swear by prepare themselves for the issues they may face since we apparently can’t educate people how to not harass, assault, intimidate or leave women alone.
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Never open the door for someone we’re not expecting and stay still until the doorbell stops ringing.
Great Post! Keep it up.
I want to add one thing:
Never go outside alone at night.
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Perhaps men need to be under curfew. It gets so tiring and unfair to have to deal with this all the time.
This article is rubbish and shouldn’t even be in the internet database. What does she mean by “men don’t have to do these things”?
Number 4, 10, 13, 18, and 22 and the stuff about drinks are things men and people of other gender identities need to do as well. For this individual to say only women need to take these precautions is beyond stupid. Girls should not carry mace with the intention of harming a man they automatically think is dangerous.
#12 Is a bit ridiculous. Men don’t lurk in parking garages waiting for scared suspicious females to get into their car. Take it from someone who’s been on the planet for almost 30 years.
#19 is something girls like to do to intimidate. There’s no need for it for them to travel in packs of 3 and 4 like wolves.
#24 is unwise if you’re the only one with bright lights in a neighborhood that’s mostly dark at night because it draws attention to your house.
This madness of new-age feminism is out of control. I genuinely hope this Brittany person was being satire about most of this.
She’s also wrong on the subject of race. It’s not her place to comment on this. As a bi-gender person of colour who’s allowing themself to express their masculine side I’ve recently had a wave of young Caucasian girls who are either more scared, or just acting scared of me since I switched from more feminine to more masculine. The problem lies in their heart and soul. There’s nothing wrong with me. I’M the one who ends up fearing they’re going to call someone (their friends, the cops, etc.) if I look or say the wrong thing and falsely describe me. I don’t trust the way they would describe me physically.
I’m kind of relieved it’s late fall now and girls are coming back to their senses with their style of dress.
If they’re so scared of being attacked by some creepy man from their fantasy, why do they so boldly dress in a manner that drives the male brain nuts? Why are they so confusing?
We now understand women’s worry, devotion to tight standards, and attention to safety as we have grown older and gained awareness of the problems they confront.
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