In many colleges across the country, rush week begins only a few weeks after classes start. For freshmen that are on the fence about rushing or not, that’s not a lot of time to make a decision about something you’ll have to commit to for the next four years. Instead of jumping in to rush week and getting sucked into Greek life, remember that sorority life isn’t necessary in order to be social.
- You can meet people through clubs related to your hobbies or major.
Sororities are time-consuming, so if you’re only going to pick an activity or two to join, something related to your major may be more valuable. Even though sororities can be a necessary resource for networking, extracurriculars that are actually geared to your specific interests may help you out more in the long run —plus you’ll be meeting people that, guaranteed, have the same interests as you.
- It’s extremely time consuming.
With weekly hour-long chapter meetings, study tables and weekend socials, the pressure to participate can be overwhelming. And not participating in these events can be met with criticism if you’d just rather go for a run or study alone.
- It’s expensive.
It starts with a pricey fee to rush, a $100 to $200 initiation fee and even more on outfits just for recruitment. And once you’re in, you’re stuck paying $1000 to $2000 per year even if you’re not living in your sorority house yet. This doesn’t even include money spent on big/little gifts, various t-shirts and possible fines. I don’t know about you, but I’d rather save my hard-earned cash for the bars, not on outfits to impress other girls.
- The possibility of hazing.
According to stophazing.org, 3 in 5 college students are subjected to hazing. Although this practice is illegal, for many sororities or fraternities, it’s a rite of passage. There’s a number of hazing stories on the internet, from something as small as chugging an unwanted beer or forcing pledges to strip down and circle parts of their body they want to lose weight. Um, I’d rather not.
- Living with a bunch of girls.
As a girl, we can all agree girls are annoying. We need boys in our life to fix our smoke detector or kill that spider crawling across the kitchen floor. Further, we need boys to give us logical advice when we’re sobbing over something because our hormones are out of whack. It’s one thing to live with one or two other girls, but 10 to 20? No thanks.
- Because they’re not actually your sisters.
And scrolling through Instagram pictures of your big, your little, your grandbig and your grandlittle, your twin, and your new “family” kind of makes me nauseous.
Many people can agree that sororities change people. Not just because they make friends that they spend more time with, but because sororities will teach you that sisterhood is number one over everything. If it’s the life you choose, then that’s fine, but keep in mind that you may be left believing in things that you wouldn’t have pre-rush.
- No drinking in the houses.
Almost every sorority house in the country bans alcohol in the house, but almost every fraternity house is free to host all the alcoholic parties they want. We all know this doesn’t keep girls from getting drunk on the weekends, it simply puts the alcohol dependence on fraternities. After a long day of school and work, we should be able to go to our home and unwind with a glass of wine.
If you’re feeling like you need to pay a hefty fee to fit in, you don’t. For some people, the sorority life is a good fit. But if you’re feeling like it’s something you need to do in order to make friends or fit in, think again. You will still get the “college experience,” as long as you put yourself out there and socialize. Now go blow that hard earned cash at the bars.
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