We’ve all had a bond with someone that we believed would last forever. When that bond fades, things can become, well, awkward. You know that person is still out there, but they’re no longer your person.
Grieving is already a difficult process, but it can be even harder when the person you’re grieving is still alive, just not in your life. It’s tough to accept that one day you knew everything about each other, talked every day, and now you don’t even hear a word from them.
Remember that it’s okay to outgrow people. Sometimes, you may have a falling out with someone simply because you’re no longer on the same page. Everyone has their own path in life, and if you believe that remaining in each other’s lives will hinder your growth, then letting go of that bond is perfectly okay.
You can still have love for a person from a distance.
Start by deleting them from social media to simplify things. If you don’t think seeing them will do you any good, just cut ties. Some people might misinterpret this and think you’re still beefing with them, but I see it as a way to keep the peace. Out of sight, out of mind. If they’re no longer in your life, you don’t have to keep up with them, and they don’t need to keep up with you either.
Some days, you might find yourself feeling sorry that you no longer know them. You’re unaware of their current schedule or the life they’re living now that you’re no longer part of it. Instead of dwelling on this, shift your mindset. Become the person who embraces change: discover new hobbies, find a new favorite series to binge-watch, set new goals, and focus on filling your own cup.
Maybe the broken bond ended on a sour note, filled with unresolved issues or built-up emotions.
In this case, finding inner peace is essential. Take the time to journal your feelings and reflect on what you’re experiencing—always listen to your body. You may find yourself replaying the last conversation you had before deciding to stop communicating. It’s perfectly okay to feel your emotions; you might feel anger towards that person. However, try not to reach out in response to those feelings, as it could worsen the situation for both of you.
It’s also unhealthy to keep dwelling on the same situation repeatedly. I understand that it’s easier said than done, but you eventually need to move on; life doesn’t stop just because you’re unhappy with how something ended. You’ve got to learn to recognize when it’s time to start a new chapter.
You may never fully get over a person, and there will be days when memories of your time together resurface. People are irreplaceable, but confiding in those around you and in yourself can help you find forgiveness and continue moving forward with your life.
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