Every January, I received dozens of emails from PR reps pushing their “lose weight and get the perfect body” agenda.
And, every January, I muted these reps and sent them directly to spam. I don’t need someone telling me I need to start the new year by losing weight, nor will I ever cover a topic for any site about ways in which one can lose weight. As far as I’m concerned, every body is a bikini body and no one can convince me otherwise.
But as these emails come in throughout the month, my friends and colleagues also bombard me with posts on Instagram about ignoring the January narrative of losing weight and, instead, loving your body as it is.
Post after post of “your body is beautiful no matter what your size,” take over my Instagram feed and, honestly, I find it just as grating as the PR reps pushing their “new year, new you” crap.
Here’s the thing: I’m so sick of people telling me I have to love my body, that I shouldn’t strive for the physique of Emily Ratajkowski, and if I have stretch marks and cellulite, I should embrace them.
Why? Why is this something I have to do? If I don’t, if I get up every morning loathing my body, how does it affect you or you or you? I strongly feel that I’m allowed to like and dislike things on my terms, and if I happen to not love my body, I don’t think that makes me any less of a feminist or any less of an advocate for the body positive movement.
I completely agree that loving your body in a society that shoves their warped ideas of perfection down our throats on a regular basis is a feminist act. To love your body, every inch of it, no matter its appearance is a wonderful thing. It’s mentally and emotionally healthy to do so; it challenges society’s archaic standards and, believe me, I’m 100 percent here for it.
When the pandemic hit and all my travel plans for 2020 came abruptly to a halt, I gained a bit of weight. It’s hard not to gain weight when you’re sitting around, with no place to go, and you’re mourning the loss of the life you knew before.
I came to my senses and realized that a trip to Tulum would be the very definition of ignorance, arrogance, and white privilege so I canceled. But I decided I needed to lose that pandemic weight if I were going to be on the beaches of Mexico.
I mentioned to a friend that I needed to cut the carbs and get in shape. Her response, as any good, loving friend would say: “No diets! You don’t need to lose weight to be beautiful!” I agree. But if I’m uncomfortable in my skin, don’t I have the right to make changes so I can feel comfy in this body of mine? Last I checked, I do.
Like a lot of people, I have a love/hate relationship with my body. I know I will never walk down the street looking like a Photoshopped model from the pages of Vogue. This isn’t something I’ve had to accept, it’s just my reality.
I’ve never had a moment where I had to make peace with my body, because it is what it is. My body weight has fluctuated throughout my life and I’m sure it will continue to do so. My relationship with my body is complicated. I don’t need, nor do I want, people telling me how that relationship has to be.
In a perfect world, we’d all love our bodies. Think of just how amazing human bodies are. The intricacy of all of it working together to get you from place to place. It’s phenomenal.
I respect my body deeply but the point is I shouldn’t have someone breathing down my neck telling me I have to respect it. We’re given one body and what we choose to do with it in our lifetime is our business. No one should be dictating how we should feel about our bodies and we owe no one an explanation about those feelings.
To love your body and to love yourself is a beautiful thing. But for some people it’s not that simple because life itself isn’t simple. No one should be shamed for the complexities that come with being human, especially when it comes to their own skin.
Originally written by Amanda Chatel on YourTango
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