Being at your weakest forces you to realize a lot of enlightening things. Feeling weak often comes with self-pity, self-hate, and feeling helpless and lost. You can’t seem to put into words how awful you feel. It’s like seeing yourself alone in a corner, crying your heart out, and feeling the darkness slowly hovering over your entire being. But being at your lowest isn’t just about feeling bad about yourself. The lessons it teaches can help make you a better person. Here are eight powerful lessons I learned during the lowest point of my life:
1. Self-love is all you have.
I realized that no matter how many friends I have, no matter how loving and supportive my family is, at the end of the day, I only have myself. It’s important to love yourself and accept your identity and your flaws because it is difficult to love others when you can’t love yourself.
2. Losing yourself for someone else isn’t worth it.
Sure, prioritizing someone else will teach you a lesson. Yes, in the future, you’ll be thankful that you made that mistake. Still, though, no one is worth losing yourself for. The greatest love we have is the love we give ourselves, so never let anyone else dull your light.
3. Being alone isn’t a bad thing.
Independence is one of the greatest strengths you can develop. A person who can carry herself well can withstand the toughest challenges that life throws at her. Sometimes growing requires that you cultivate yourself alone because we truly bloom on our own.
4. Breaking down isn’t a sign of weakness.
Most people think that breaking down makes you weak, but it’s brave to crumble and acknowledge defeat. Showing your emotions strengthens you for future challenges. After all, a true warrior isn’t afraid to cry.
5. Not everyone is your friend.
As much as you wish that you could unconditionally trust others, you can’t trust everyone who’s close to you. Some people are kind to your face but will lie and gossip behind your back. Be careful who you share your true self with because not everyone deserves to know you that well.
6. You should forgive people.
Sometimes you need to forgive the people who have wronged you, even if they aren’t sorry. After all, carrying hate in your heart just causes more conflict. When you forgive someone, you let go of the burden in your heart, which makes you feel lighter. The inner peace forgiveness brings is overwhelming in the best way. The best way to unleash that serenity is to free yourself from the hatred and rage inside of you.
7. Allow yourself to heal.
Healing is not an overnight process. It takes time to fully regain who you were. So don’t be so hard on yourself. Give yourself time. It can take awhile to stick the broken pieces back together, but you have time to find what you’re missing. Small bits of progress are still progress, so learn to celebrate the small successes on your way to healing.
8. Learn to live your life the way you want to.
Don’t let other people’s words influence you to be a certain way. No matter what others say, be who you want to be. Someone will always have something negative to say no matter what you do, so why not live life on your own terms?
Reaching my lowest point taught me so much about myself. At my lowest, I learned many valuable lessons that I’ll never forget. So if you’re feeling low, I hope you’ll remember these truths so that you don’t make the same mistakes that I did. After all, in the game of life, we never lose; we just learn lessons that makes us better.