4 Things To Do If You’re Stuck In A Love Triangle

My guilty pleasure is watching reality television. I think it’s the drama that I lack in my everyday life that gets to me. Recently I have been hooked on Are You the One?. I can’t wait for a new episode to come out every single week. For those who have never seen the show, it is a matchmaking game where singles are paired up based on extensive testing to find their “perfect match”.  I think one of the most common problems on the show is the love triangles. However, a lot of us have been in similar situations, and our own lives are sometimes worthy of a reality show.  It sucks if you are stuck in the middle of a love triangle or if you are one of the sides who is struggling for the attention of the other person. Love triangles really are the worst! Below I outlined four steps that Are You the One has actually taught me about love triangles and how to potentially resolve this horrible dilemma.

  1. Consider your choices
    You might not want to be a part of the love triangle as soon as you realize that you are in one. So you might try to get out of the situation as quickly as possible. You might think this is the best option and the easiest way out of feeling guilty and uncomfortable. The only problem is that you might make a rash decision that can impact you in the long run. Consider every option and how every choice will affect you. Sometimes it might be wiser to stick it out to be happy in the long run.
  2. Talk about it and share your feelings
    Some people might not realize how invested you are in the relationship. If they don’t check up on you every single minute and see that you are suffering than they won’t be able to understand how you really feel about them. The person in your love triangle might just be oblivious to the fact that their actions impact you in a very deep way. It’s always important to share how you really feel on either side of the love triangle and convey to them that this is impacting you in a big way.
  3. Acceptance
    Don’t cling on to the idea that something might work out in the future. It’s important to evaluate the situation and not imagine something that is not there. Moving on can be rough but it is much easier to come to terms with the situation if you haven’t invested too much of yourself into it. Dealing with something that you have been a part of for three weeks as opposed to three months is a big difference. So don’t torture yourself if there is no concrete sign that it will all work out in the end. Sometimes you just have to accept that some people don’t change or that they are just not as invested as you are.
  4. Distract yourself
    It’s important for this not to consume you. The best way to move on or to figure out your next step is to take some time off and to focus on yourself. Spend some time with family and friends to give your mind a rest. It is important to take a breather in order to not make a rash decision and to evaluate the situation from an objective viewpoint.  

Love triangles are not fun when you are unintentionally a part of one. However every situation can be resolved, it just takes time and effort to figure out what the best option is for you. So don’t overreact if you do happen to be in one, take your time and consider your choices. And while you do that, enjoy some reality TV because it might actually give you great advice.  

Feature Image via screengrab from Vampire Diaries.

9 COMMENTS

  1. I’m in a love triangle but I’m not the main person in it, Person A likes me, Person B and Person C. Person B, C and I all like Person A but Person A doesn’t know who to choose. Help please…

  2. Im in a love triangle and it hurts When he cant sleep with me everynight.But the good thing is he be with me more than he be with her …Yes they do have history…But they cant get alone period she be wanting him to come home and when he get there she do something to him to run him back to me and she call me and tell me he on his way back to my house and I say ok…And he come …..Im really so deep in love with him I dnt know what to do…Help me please

  3. im in a love triangle as well and its with me ex and someone who likes me and i dont know who to pick because me and my ex have strong history but the other person is so kind and loving not only to me but other people and thsts what i love about him and i spend most of the time with him….help needed

  4. I’m in a love triangle well you can say affair I guess. I love her. She loves me. But she with someone and has a daughter with him and I have a daughter as well. She told me if she didnt have a daughter it would be a no contest and shell choose me. But she doesnt want to lose her daughter. I am separated with my baby momma and am completely in love with her. She doesnt know what to do. I love her and I treat her the best i could and when I shop for my daughter I shop for her and well. And she does the same for mine. I love her and want to be with her. What can I do? Or am I just kidding myself

    • So I suggest you tell her to take full custody of that daughter of her’s, she get’s a divorce, and then after some time she goes with you, since she does love you. Or, you can both just say the truth.

  5. I’m in a love triangle too … He’s in my tuition… I didn’t even knew … We were good being Platonic friends….and he likes my friend…but slowly when we started spending time together i started falling for him …. I know that there won’t be any possibility because he loves my friend….. And even that I’ve confessed my feelings to him … And he understood and still we’re good friends and he really cares for me …. But it hurts me seeing him hurt … because the person he likes…she too likes someone else …… I would have forgotten him ….but the memories that I’ve made with him …. Idk how to forget that ….. I am in tears now …. …. I wish he would have loved me back …but I know it’ll be selfish of me ……. Sometimes I feel I shouldn’t have confessed…. I’m afraid that our remaining frndship would be ruined….

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