This One Word Is Damaging Women’s Credibility In The Workplace

So, you’ve clicked on this article just to learn what the word is, right? Well, I’m just here to bring some awareness to this small thing women do every day. I don’t want to take up too much of your time, it’s just about a 3 minute read. It’s a thought that has gone through my head and I just thought that you might want to realize it now, since it might affect more than just these next 3 minutes of your time.

Now you might not have realized that in those first few sentences, I could have absolutely damaged my credibility as a writer and as someone who should be heard. I used the word “just” several times. In turn, I was justifying my reason for writing to you and justifying the time it will take you to read this article, and I’ve given you a reason to evaluate and question whether I should be heard at all.

LinkedIn Influencer, Ellen Petry Leanse, originally posted her article speculating the word just on the LinkedIn platform and it stuck with me for weeks. After doing her own little social experiment using both Male and Female coworkers, she tallied how often each individual said the word “just” in a professional presentation. The average female said it 5-6 times, while the average male said it once.

Now I want you to think about your own conversations in the workplace, or at school, and how many times the word “just” leaves your lips…

“I just wanted to let you know…”

“I just wanted to make sure you had… “

“I just was checking in on…”

“Just let me grab my…”

This consumed my brain for the next few days. I reviewed my e-mails, caught myself saying it at work, and caught myself saying it in most conversations I had with others. It surprised me that a word I barely even noticed before, seemed to be said so much more often by myself, a female, rather than the males around me. My observation was heightened and my awareness was tenfold. I started to ask myself why I feel the need to rationalize my purpose by using the word just?

What does it really mean to add the word “just”?

If a man can say, “I need to get an answer on the Rogers’ pitch list today,” why do I feel the need to say, “Can I just get an answer on the Rogers’ pitch list for today so I can post it to the team?”

It started to make me realize that it was almost as if I was asking permission, using it as somewhat of an apology for bothering someone, or using it in order to explain myself. It was interesting to me that if this was my purpose for using this “j” word so often, that men obviously must not feel the same inclination to ask permission, to justify interrupting anyone, or to explain themselves when they need something.

As a feminist and an advocate for women asserting themselves in the workplace, I was astonished that I was letting a subconscious slip of the tongue take away my credibility and bring uncertainty to each of my sentences, rather than strength. Every sentence that I attempted to re-word without using the word just was easy to do and in fact, made the statement stronger and more assertive.

“I’m just trying to find out the best way to get them to you, can you advise?” became, “I’m attempting to find the best way to get them to you, please advise.

“I just want to confirm how many orders are coming our way.” became, “Please confirm how many orders are coming our way.”

Although still polite and professional, I was changing the way I asserted myself. It added clarity to my needs, demanded attention versus asking for permission, and defined myself as someone who needed to be heard, not an individual who “would just like to be heard”.
On that note, I challenge us women to take a look at how we are expressing ourselves and how we are choosing to communicate our needs. Maybe the word “just” is your safe word, maybe it’s a word you ignored until now, or maybe it’s a word you really DGAF about. Regardless, let’s take a look at how we are communicating and asserting ourselves in the workforce. You (just) might not realize how much of a difference it makes.

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  1. Sometimes I wish there was a middle ground, where men would be a bit less assertive and women a bit more. Seems like women always have to go in the direction that men prefer. “Just” sayin’

  2. As a man I can tell you plainly your ‘just’ does not sound like asking permission, to us, at least to me, but that word actually, in manspeak has the connotation hat you’re actually belittling the person you’re asking.

    This is who WE read the word, ‘can I just’. (Depending on tone perhaps, but it’s worth noting.) ‘Can I just’ implies, to us, that we DON’T do what you want or what you say, so you’re saying can I JUST get this then? Since you’re so unreasonable? Since you’re so hard to get to listen to me? Can I JUST get this??

    That’s what just means when a man says it in this context, the total opposite of what you’re trying to convey. The only other context a man will use ‘just’ is if there is more than one option and they want to let you know they want that ‘one’ in particular, which is the proper grammatical context of the word ‘just’ without any emotional connotations.

    “Would you like a whole chocolate bar?”
    “No, just one piece, thanks!”

    This is the neutral proper way of using just. The way you described it in your article, at least without reading tones, sounds to me like it could be (and possibly is being read as) a demand, like you think less of the people you’re asking, like they don’t satisfy you with their normal behavior, if they could JUST do this one thing, please.

    I know it sounds like you may read it is ‘could you only do this one thing, I’m not asking for much, I don’t want to bother you’ etc. but that is NOT how a man reads that word. If you said it humbly like, “I don’t want to be a bother, can I get this particular thing from you guys? Thanks!” That would probably be a little better than ‘just’ if you want to convey more honestly that you’re trying to be meek, etc. But as you pointed out, just leaving out all the emotionally ambiguous words and asking directly (though in a polite/meek way of course), is probably the best course of action or a much better one, perhaps.

    Being polite/meek is usually desirable in anyone, male or female, but you’re just not interpreting that word in the same way. It’s not your fault, you don’t know any better, and it’s not the men’s fault either, because they also don’t know that you mean it that way.

    This is my best guess as to one possibility as to what’s going on. I’m male, but I’m also pretty good with words and communication. I’m not saying I’m right for sure cause I’m not there in the situation, hearing your tone or context, etc. but this might be the case for you, and/or point you in the right direction to have an insight into this phenomenon for you.

    I think you’re solution of just leaving the word ‘just’ out is a good one, at least in my opinion it sounds like it may work. (Notice, also I only used ‘just’, just now, in the true dictionary, with no emotional connotations, way of using it, to mean ‘only’, and not in a request, but in advice, prescriptive, not supplicating, or implicating anything emotionally. That sentence simply means, ‘you could perhaps get away with only doing this one thing and it might fix your problem.’

    Anyway, good luck Susan! And God Bless! In Jesus’s Name~ ^^

    • I meant to say good luck to Rebecca, the article writer, I got mixed up cause I read Susan’s comment beforehand. But if the comment is of any benefit to Susan I’m glad for that too, sorry Susan! Didn’t mean to mix your names up.


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