What It’s Like To Be In Your 20s And Be Told You May Not Have Kids

I have always had dreams of being a mother after I finished my Master’s degree: I was going to be married, happy, and starting out with my social work career. I had a fairy tale ideal of having no worries with fertility and thought I would be able to be pregnant when I decided the time was right.

But life never goes as planned.

All of these dreams were shattered when I was diagnosed with Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome in February 2015, at the age of 24. It would get tiring to keep saying Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, so it is referred to as PCOS. I had helpless fears of not being able to have children, because PCOS creates fertility issues and makes it hard to conceive.

Before the diagnosis of PCOS, I was a binge eater in high school; I read Seventeen Magazine and wanted to be thin because then I would be treated well by others and boys would look at me. When I would binge, I would not eat for the most of the day. I ate a small breakfast and didn’t eat till dinner time where I binged on food. I thought I would lose weight, but I did not. When I started college, I stopped binge eating but I only ate twice a day still trying to lose weight. I kept gaining weight slowly and slowly.

After I stopped binge eating, I suffered from two bouts of hyperthyroidism at the age of 20 and age of 23. My endocrinologist originally thought I had the autoimmune disorder of Graves’ disease. Over the years, she did not believe that I had Graves’ disease because I didn’t fit the symptoms but my hormone levels indicated hyperthyroidism. Thankfully, she had recently read a study about how PCOS can triggered thyroid problems and the hyperthyroidism masks the PCOS. When we got the bloodworm back for PCOS, the results were positive. My endocrinologist told me that I have always had PCOS, and that this was the explanation for my weight gain, difficulty with losing weight, bloating, abnormal hair growth, hair loss, acne, and irregular periods my whole life. These are the most common symptoms of PCOS. One of the more common symptoms that I did not have are ovarian cysts.

When I received the news, I was plainly in denial. I cried in front of my boyfriend, saying that it is not fair and I was mad that this might prevent me from having children. I felt like a failure as a woman. My boyfriend calmed me down and told me that I am so much more than this disease; that I am strong, and if I can overcome hyperthyroidism and binge eating, then I can fight and take control of PCOS. He was the support system that I desperately needed and I will always be grateful for him being the voice of reason.

PCOS is the reason why I had weight issues in high school. This genetic disorder, more common in women and teens than most people realize, is nobody’s fault. There is no way to prevent PCOS.

There is nothing that I did to develop PCOS, and there was nothing I could do to stop it.

One of the lessons I have learned is that knowing that I have PCOS now means that I have power and can take control. Dealing with PCOS is also dealing with a lot of symptoms and side effects that constantly affect your body. Putting myself down only made me feel worse. When I felt bad about my body, I stopped myself and focused on the body parts that I really like. The reality that I have to deal with is that PCOS is never cured, but it can be managed. It can controlled through diet, weight loss, and medication like Metformin. The use of eating less carbs, making better food choices, daily exercise, and Metformin have helped me with losing 33 lbs. I am back to the weight I was in high school. I’ve become more active by participating in 5k races and I feel healthier than I have ever been in my life. Staying positive and getting rid of negativity made me feel better. I have accepted my diagnosis of PCOS and it will not affect my life. I have the power to not let it destroy me but take the power and give PCOS a nice kick in the butt.

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1 COMMENT

  1. Wow

    I feel like I could be reading something from my own life. My experience was very much like yours. All the issues since I hit puberty weight gain, acne, hair loss, weird hair growth and irregular periods. Then at 19 after a 30lb weight gain I saw a doc who told me I had hypothyroidism. To make matters worse I had a mom who thought I was just lazy and trying to make an excuse as to why I was “fat” and that if I just stopped eating as much I would lose weight. I hardly ate as it was. After getting into a better environment and doing a hard core low carb, low fat, low calorie diet I lost 45lbs. I joined the navy and at 22 I got married. At 24 my hubby and I have been ttc. You know that gut feeling you have when something’s wrong? Yea I had that when I went to see my doctor who then diagnosed me with pcos though I didn’t have the cysts. Now we’re on the path of fertility treatments. Hopefully I’ll be a mom by next year.

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