It’s the summer of “cheeky” style bathing suit bottoms and I don’t know what to do.
I have always felt self-conscious in a bathing suit and this trend just made that even worse. Instagram is flooded with girls showing off their booty in their thong-esque bathing suit bottoms and of course I like every single one because I would love to be able to show off that kind of confidence and rock a cheekier bottom.
But I can’t, won’t, and probably will never rock this style.
My butt and legs are far from perfect and I’m okay with that but I’m not ready to flaunt it to the world yet. I want something with more fabric and a lot more comfort. However this is becoming almost impossible to find. I hate going bathing suit shopping because nothing covers my butt. I’ve always been teased for having a bigger booty and although I’ve accepted my butt for what it is, I don’t want to lie out in a thong for all to see.
Think about this: I’m going on vacation in September with my family to a tropical island. I need to buy bathing suits for this vacation. I really don’t feel comfortable parading around the island in front of my dad and my brother in a thong bikini bottom. I mean, some of you may feel comfortable doing so but I am almost positive that my family would be extremely uncomfortable if I chose to dawn on that barely-there style.
They’d feel uncomfortable. I’d feel uncomfortable. Other people would feel uncomfortable. Wow, sounds fun.
I’m not saying that this trend is anything horrible. If you want to rock a cheekier bottom then go for it! All the power to you for feeling so comfortable in your own body, and yeah, I think that is awesome! But for the rest of us who would like to keep a little more booty covered up I think we deserve more options that have more fabric to cover our booty. There needs to be at least some options for those of us who are a bit more modest.
This style is also not flattering for everyone. For us big booty girls it can actually flatten your butt in a very unflattering way. Also, how are you supposed to look cute when you have a serious case of hungry bum? Most of my butt has never even seen the sun so I’m really not down for some third degree burns.
I really hate this style because it only caters to a small minority yet is being made for the majority. Cheeky bottoms are the new crop tops; made only for a select few. I’ve found it extremely difficult this summer to buy bathing suits because of the lack of fuller bottom styles. I’m not shaming those of you who do love this cheeky style and I think that if you want to rock it then you should! I’m just disappointed in the lack of options for us girls who don’t want to show off as much.
“Cheeky” style I’m ready for you to go back to where you came from and please don’t come back!
Featured image via MAX LIBERTINE on Unsplash
Lands End do a “tugless” suit that covers the bottom – I had one for a while and it really does stay put. But I, ever the nonconformist, have now got myself a “boyleg” swimsuit, with (as the name implies) legs that cover the first few inches of thigh as well. Most racing suits have this feature. Took mine on a long trip to Greece last September and LOVED it. TOTAL comfort.
Okay definitely need to find some of this boyleg style it sounds so comfy!!
I too have this issue, and coincidentally my job requires me to have a one piece bathing suit (summer camp counselor). I went to Modell’s and found out that Nike makes fantastic one pieces with lots of coverage- and they’re cute too, mine has a big diamond-shaped back cutout (not that I’m really into cutouts but it looks right here)! You should look into more sport-oriented bathing suits, I’ve found they’re more comfy and hold up waaaay better than the flimsy fashion bikinis.
Ou I will definitely have to check this out! I’m going on vacay soon so thanks for the advice 🙂
I hate the cheeky bathing suits also! And I’m in good physical shape — I just don’t like being that naked! I’ve found that you can buy much fuller bathing suits online than in the stores. I bought a cheap one from Amazon (made by a company called Raintropical), and it has great coverage. So check online for cheaper and fuller options!
I think thong and cheeky bathings suits are gross, full stop. Even girls with perfect bodies look silly and frankly gross with their butts hanging out and parading their wedgies for all to see. It is a degenerate and unsightly trend. I feel like a grandmother saying so, but it’s true. Not all fashions are ‘progress’, and as many social freedoms have verged toward degeneracy, so too have aesthetic ones, from music, to art to fashion. We need a pendulum swing back to more conservative times when men and women alike had more taste and reserve.
Cheeky bathing suits make everyone uncomfortable except the teenage girls and young 20s who admire themselves and each other for parading almost naked. Everyone else feels uncomfortable.
It is so disturbing especially when they look like strippers. I’m like ” girls, theres no poles here!” Its very hurtful to me because its offensive and very sexual. I think of the kids they’re exposing themselves to. I think of the early teen girls with grown men looking at them. Very disturbing. If a man cant expose himself to a women then neither should women or children. They should be charged for indecency. A man would! I know a man asked to leave our beach because he wore long boxer underwear for swimwear. Meanwhile the girls in thong were not told to leave by this man. I cant go to a beach cause I feel upset when it feels I’m looking at porn or I’m at a gentleman bar. It’s not sexy. It’s so slutty looking like the way sex workers would dress before they take it off. It’s not appropriate swimwear. It’s for occassions where sex takes place, at home, in the strip joint, the brothel, not for a family beach or just people who dont want that strip joint, playboy feel to their beach day. It’s so vulgar how they lie on their stomachs and your eyes are drawn up their ass where the thong isnt even see. It’s especially disrespectful to expose themselves to other womens men especially when hes getting their eyes filled with teenage asses in thongs. It’s no more right if some women or teenage girl were to go around his home wearing nothing but a thong. It freaking wrong, inappropriate, seriously disrespectful to people in relationships where they got no business to be so bold and dressed sooo sexually in front of people. Where do they get off. It makes me want to scream at them and call them nasty names be cause its sexually violating to me and something sexual to see of those women I dont consent to. I can choose not to go to a strip joint, but now i have to avoid the beach because it feels so wrong to be there seeing so many women wearing thongs that draw so much attention to their most intimate zones. I feel upset cause I dont feel it’s appropriate beach to bring kids to, like my daughter. I might as well let her look at sexual stuff in everything else where I’m suppose to make responsible child appropriate choices in what she sees. This is no way right for adult women or teen girls to expose themselves to little boys and girls. It should be no different than if a man exposed himself at the beach in strings and very little material in front. It’s no way to present yourself to kids especially. Such mindless thinkers. It’s not a nice feeling to go home with your man who has a dozen or more images of girls in thongs in his vision board. The images stick because they’re so shocking and sexual. It would make women with men feel cheated on cause they’re looking at all these naked women and receiving very sexual take home images that should not be shared without both couples consenting. It feels like an assault that girls can get naked for your man and come outside almost naked. Taking off your clothes is intimate. Wearing really skimpy outfits is used to stimulate arousal. I cant believe they got the guts to be so sexual and vulgar lying boldly on their stomachs, ass face up. To be that intimate with people shocks the shit out of me, without any consciences. A thong is something you wear for your partner to present yourself in the most sexual sexwear.The ass is the most erotique zone area for a man that is just as sexual to his senses as the vagina! Women are trying to make their own rules and shaming men for seeing it sexually or acting with a zoned out stare. Then they learn they should feel ashamed when they cant achieve the expectations and not feel turned on. These images are very powerful. It doesnt give a man an excuse not to control himself but it’s impossible not to be affected and turn off the sexual response. He can control his response to keep his hand to himself but the sexual arousal will be involuntary. I love when women say ” men should learn to control their erections!” Women have no clue neither are they logical. It’s like ” Really? You expect to show really sexual images of yourself and to just treat it like hes looking at a painting of erotic nature and not to respond with the appropriate feelings that match to a persons sexual enate programming. Telling me as a child not to look at it sexually would be impossible. If I was shamed because I couldn’t I’d end up believing I’m a pervert and sick in that I cant see it in any other way. I’ve tested it, telling myself when I see images of women wearing garments that are porn like outfits not to see it as sexual, and its impossible! Its extreme gaslighting to make people see it as not. It fucks with peoples heads as good men would try not to be perverts and not react. Our brains identify it as exactly that and here we are trying to tell our heads it’s not. The brain is gonna laugh at you and say ” what kind of bullshit are you trying to feed me!”. It’s like telling your brain that tree isnt green and that flower doesnt grow. What are you suppose to say, that it doesnt? The reality is that humans find that stuff really sexual with a powerful effect. Our brains are geared to see it as really sexual in nature. Images are just as much apart of sexuality as green is to a leaf. It’s a part of our makeup and design. It’s not like people dont get seriously sexually excited from seeing that stuff. I mean get real! You think people would like to be having sexual encounters where they closed their eyes the whole time? The body’s image creates strong desire. It was designed that way to increase pleasure and drive a person to seek orgasm for the species to survive! I could see if women has a realistic expectation for men to not react so sexually if modestly dressed, but once you present yourself in sexy, tight clothes showing all the parts that really sexually excite a man, let alone show him explicit thongs, it’s really delusional to expect a react to such a situation and not respond as if they were in a room with a woman or women almost naked. Come on ladies, in this case you’re totally gaslighting yourself and being abusive to the male population to make them feel like perverts for responding to images and situations that are just as sexual in nature as what a stripper would wear or on a night with his girlfriend where a thong is presented purposely to be really kinky and explicit to create a sexual image he’ll drop his jaw at and lose his breath! Oh but that’s not sexual. From their point of view, only love should exist with no sexual reaction towards their body parts cause its nonsexual, and humans shouldnt feel excited over who they’re attracted to physically. Women are trying to propose we take sexual attraction out so we no longer see bodies as sexy or sexual. I think it’s a big component that I enjoy personally. I see how women feel upset with men responding to all these women. I’m sorry, but the only possible solution is to stop objectifying yourselves and then try to screw with mens heads when their brains identify an image their brains and penises respond to sexually. The men are expected to turn it off and if they cant then they are shamed. You go around naked and dont expect jaws to drop and then you girls act violated. You’re not women until you act mature like women and not so childish about sexuality. You’re wanting to be as erotic looking as possible and as sexually stimulating as porn to feel good about your sexual desirability, but then you dont like when the prettier girl with the better body walks by you and the guys dont look at you anymore. Sorry, if you’re all gonna be so shallow and sexually indecent then the universe brings it back exactly what you’re putting out. No it’s not right for men to act that way liking those skimpy dressed girls, but it’s also not right for the girls to be sexually indecent and just as sexual as the men by dressing in the very image that you get upset with them for responding to. You girls dont like that men love looking at this stuff but you’re the ones producing the material. If ya dont like porn, or playboy,and you hate men for being so shallow and not treating sexual things sacred, then stop making the material, degrading your own body and reducing yourself image as if you were an unpaid sex worker, I mean volunteer! If you want men to think pure, you ain’t gonna be successful showing up in his view dressed like porn. Its illogical. Logic would tell you it makes sense if you want to make him a moral man whose not drooling over porn then dont show him what will cause him to salivate!