I once had a huge group of “friends,” but growing up has taught me that not everyone should stay in my life. Therefore, for the past couple of years, I have become OK with being alone.
I now only seek out bonds with people who have the same ambitions, morals, and goals that I do. I want to spend my time with people who love and respect me as much as I love and appreciate them.
After some of my previous friendships ended in messy ways, I tried to close myself off to the idea of letting anyone truly get to know me.
Opening up to others wasn’t easy at first, but I knew that to create healthier relationships, I needed to be vulnerable. I also needed to know what I wanted from my life.
In all honesty, after my friendships ended and I hadn’t yet made new friends, I sometimes found it hard to be alone. I frequently overthought situations and lost myself in my mind. Instead of talking with someone about my feelings, I journaled until I felt calmer. I wrote down both my short-term and long-term goals, which made me feel like I had purpose and gave me hope for the future.
I’m not usually a shy person, but during this time, going out alone made me feel anxious.
Sometimes I even tried to persuade my brother to go shopping with me, which would be a hit-or-miss situation. When I left the house alone, I’d arrive at my destination but then sit in my car and spend a while contemplating whether I should even get out. My mind would tell me that everyone was watching me, and the only thing that seemed to quiet that voice was playing music in my earbuds. I knew that likely, no one was watching me, but this was the only step I could take to stop my anxious thoughts.
Now, though, I know that being comfortable with being alone is a valuable strength.
Being alone has helped me love and appreciate myself more. However, I also know that I’m now in a better headspace to make new friends. I’m OK with being alone, but I still want company in my daily life. After all, surrounding ourselves with people who share uplifting energy is beautiful.
I once thought that my friends couldn’t negatively influence my life because I’m in control. But I learned that it’s better to be alone than to surround myself with people who don’t share my values or treat me respectfully. Our friends’ energy rubs off on us easily, so keeping negative “friends” in our lives can be extremely draining.
Recently, I started to reach out to friends with whom I don’t normally spend time. I learned there’s nothing wrong with being the first one to reach out. Having deep conversations with old friends over dinner, then walking downtown and watching fireworks together helps me appreciate life a little bit more. I’m no longer afraid to be alone, but I also know that good company makes life even more enjoyable.
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I’ve been through something similar, learning that being alone isn’t nearly as painful as being surrounded by people who don’t truly value or understand you. Thank you for sharing such an honest and heartfelt experience.
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