I’ve been single for a year and a half now and within that time, I’ve learned so much about myself, the world, and about what I must expect from this life.
Being single,I’ve learned that life is scary, unpredictable, challenging, beautiful, bolstering, charming, flirtatious, exciting, and dull. I’ve learned that each day is a new journey and each decision you make leads you to where you’re supposed to be.
Within this journey, we meet different people who show us parts of ourselves, who allow us to tap into parts that we didn’t know were there. Those same people can bring us both happiness and tears, both adventure and dullness, both excitement and depression.
And so I ask the question — how do we know? What are the signs to knowing whether or not you should see or share your time with someone?
How do we know if we’re making the right choice?
Within this year and a half, I realized I need more of a connection than just hooking up. But the idea of dating again is so profound that I just cannot do it.
So, being single and committing to being single was a revolutionary transition for me. My brain shifted into a state of bliss with the focus on myself. I was focused on my mental health and physical health. I didn’t have to check in with another human being.
Each decision I made, I based on my opinion and what I wanted. I didn’t want nor feel the need to change who I was.
And that’s just it. You make the right choice if you’re being fully you in every moment.
Dating shouldn’t be about becoming the person the other person needs. It’s about being unconditionally you and sharing that with someone you trust, someone you want to spend time around and share memories with. Someone who puts a smile on your face and calmness in your heart.
This summer of singleness showed me the power I had within myself to be and live life on my own terms.
It taught me my worth and the strength of my wisdom. It taught me how to breathe and how to just be. I realized that life is so short. And without having the freedom, independence, and wisdom to do things alone, you’ll never find that peaceful acknowledgement within yourself.
But that doesn’t mean that dating is bad. Some people are in your life for a while and others not so much. Each person teaches you something and, believe it or not, there is a purpose to it.
So trust yourself, stop overthinking, and just be at peace with the idea of being alive. With the idea of your happiness. Because remember, it’s your life… not your partner’s.