Why You Shouldn’t Stress About Picking Your Bridesmaids

You know the old saying “Always a bridesmaid, never a bride?” When it’s your turn to switch from bridesmaid to bride, the only thing that matters is that you do you.

While I haven’t experienced the joy of being a bridesmaid yet, I have attended a few weddings. Sometimes they included bridesmaids, and sometimes they didn’t. Regardless, choosing bridesmaids can get messy. Sometimes we feel obligated to include people because we previously promised them a place in our wedding or because they included us in their wedding. Other times, our families pressure us include them in our wedding party.

At the end of the day though, it doesn’t matter if you select 12 bridesmaids or none at all because it’s your day!

Celebrate the beginning of your forever however you wish! Just make sure that you choose people who you truly want by your side, not just people who will help you avoid wedding-day drama with your family and friends. Who cares what anyone else thinks?

Personally, I believe that your bridal party should be a minor concern on your wedding day. Weddings involve many intricate details, so why sweat the small stuff? After all, what matters most is marrying the love of your life while loved ones rejoice in your happiness.

I recently attended a close friend’s wedding. Although she didn’t choose me as a bridesmaid, I felt just as honored to be a guest because I still shared her special day with her. It was such a joy to see my friend happily standing at the altar, surrounded by all of her closest friends and family while she relished in the moment.

The dresses, the hair, the food and the bridal party aren’t what make weddings important. The real beauty comes from watching two happy people commit to each other for life.

If you’re a bride-to-be, embrace your special day and the love you feel towards your future husband or wife. After all, love is what matrimony is all about. And if a friend or family member selected you as a bridesmaid, don’t complain about the dress color, style, or other minor wedding details. Just be happy that your friend cared enough about you that they picked you to play such an important role in their special day. If you expected to be a bridesmaid but are instead a guest at the wedding, know that you’re still an important part of the special day. No matter how we’re involved in the wedding, let’s stop the drama and just feel happy for the newlyweds.

Featured Photo by Zoriana Stakhniv on Unsplash.


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