If You’re Not Doing These 3 Things, You’re Probably Emotionally Unavailable

Although it can be comforting to remain in your emotional plastic bubble to keep people away from you, it becomes an issue when it starts dictating your life. This unknowingly happens all the time. Not only does it start creating issues that never existed before, but staying in your emotional plastic bubble damages relationships, like: long lasting, potential, current or mutual.

Because of our emotional unavailability, it can harmfully start to affect our connections with everyone over time. Sometimes people are drawn to others who are emotionally unavailable romantically, but in every other aspect, it can deter them from you.

How to escape your emotional plastic bubble can be difficult, but once you take control, it’s easy to maintain.

Recognize Any Fear or Anxiety

Whether it’s a fear of failure or a broken heart that’s holding you back from letting someone in or the anxiety of not being good enough, it’s good to identify the things that make you nervous or anxious. Relationships are about being vulnerable, and being vulnerable means showcasing our deepest emotions to that person, which can be terrifying. By knowing your “triggers” you can slowly teach yourself how to overcome them step by step. Plus if you know how to talk about it or identify it to your partner in a safe and honest way, they will have a better chance at understanding and helping you.

Set Boundaries

Much like identifying fears, you need to know your limits. If talking about something makes you upset or anxious, give yourself a timeline of sorts.  Determine about how long it will be until you can start opening up about certain things and how far in detail you are willing to go.

By doing this, you are allowing yourself room for growth and the ability to safely express yourself without as much fear. It’s entirely about you being ready and it’s on your own terms.

Communicate As Best As You Can

Unfortunately, people often forget to inform the other person on what’s going on in their lives, even in the slightest way. You don’t have to go in much detail either, you can be vague and just emphasize that the person you’re talking to  isn’t the reason you’re pulling away a little or are struggling with leaving your safety bubble.

Sometimes you do just have to say, “It’s not you, I just need a night to sit back and think, it has nothing to do with you.” That reassurance will help them not pry and will ultimately help them understand how you function.

Bottling things up or distancing ourselves might feel like the safe and normal thing to do but it harms us so much more. Just make sure all things are on your terms to ensure you are making the right amount of progress you need. Open up slowly and let out some of what is bothering you or hindering your growth with that person, even if it’s unrelated. They’ll feel better that you’re opening up than you will about getting it off your chest.

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