The other day, I realized that some people I call very close friends just don’t truly know all of me. At first, I have to admit that this realization stung a little bit. I mean, I like to think I know all the people closest to me fairly well… or do I?
This made me get to thinking, and I had to remind myself that there are SO many facets to a person. It’s okay to have different layers or sides to your personality, and it’s even more okay that people don’t really understand every single part of your being. Trust me, it’s a good thing. Let me tell you why.
With my dad, I’m a beer-drinking, wanna-be blues musician. With my mom, I’m a shopaholic and a sass-master. With my inspiring group of friends, I’m an infinitely capable dancing stoner princess. With my boyfriend, I’m a tender, loving, and supportive partner. With strangers, I’m a thoughtful and respectful young adult.
And at times, when I’m by myself, I can find myself as far from those other selves as possible.
The point of all that is pretty simple. If people don’t get to see every single side of me, so what?! I believe accepting the different and unique layers whenever they feel right allows me to be a fuller, more diverse and complex person. Not to mention, it’s fun to have a lot of sides so you’ll rarely get bored! (That’s a lie, you’ll still get bored)
You don’t have to define yourself by any umbrella terms. Your style, your attitude, your likes, and dislikes… they’re all relative to how you’re feeling, the company you’re with, or simply whether you woke up on the right side of the bed that day. Don’t turn down something you would LOVE to do because of the people you’re with or the reputation you’re trying to uphold. You’re allowed to have different crowds, different interests, and remember– you’re not, under any circumstances, obligated to be transparent and habitual.
Try new things, act silly when and where you want to be silly and with whom you want to be silly, and just know that you aren’t required to rely on any single person or group of people for validation or for your sense of self-identity. You are you. There are so many parts of you that are special. Indulge in whatever parts of yourself that feel comfortable at that time. You’re the boss, so act like it!