Sometimes in life, you just need to save yourself. The sad part about life is that not everyone is going to be on your side. Not everyone is going to be picking you back up and trying to motivate you to do better. Not everyone is going to want to see you succeed. Unfortunately, there are going to be people in your life that not only want to see you fail, but they will thrive on it.
Those are the people we normally overlook the negative with. The people that we like to make excuses for because they don’t know any better. The people that we apologize for, believing that they are misunderstood, creatures. The people that we give second and third chances to, just to prove to us yet again that they will never change. They most certainly will make you think that they have, giving you a list of ways on how they have changed and how they are going to do better this time around, but that means nothing without a history of proof.
And what has the history of these people shown you? They are unreliable. They are needy. They are selfish. They are unwilling to see life in a different perspective, other than their own. They always think that everyone is out to get them. They always manage to get their way, because it is just easier to give them what they want rather than to have to battle with them over it. They always manage to manipulate the situation in their favor and you are always too late to realize it. It isn’t until that point where you are mentally and emotionally drained that you find yourself questioning how you let it go on for so long.
These are not the people we need in our lives. While it may seem like you are being selfish by distancing yourself from someone who seems like they need you, you are actually doing yourself a favor. They may necessarily want you around, but it is only so that they can walk on you so they can raise themselves up. They need you because they need to destroy you so they can “help” you and ultimately feel better about themselves. To them, you are their drug that helps them feel better.
That is not friendship. That is not a relationship. That is not family. The people that you need in your life do not need an endless amount of chances to prove they are not going to screw your emotions over. The people that you need in your life are the ones that pick you up when your second chance people go to the waste side yet again. The people that you need in your life are the ones that motivate you to do better, be better, without looking for something in return. The people you need in your life are the ones that recognize who these soul sucking people are and try to save you from them before it’s too late.
Now is the time in our lives where we should be selective with who we have by our side. It is not about the number of people we have next to us, but those who truly can be depended on. Even if that means there is only a select few who are good enough for that role, that is better than those that you have to question their role. Sometimes you have to remember that you have to do things for your own well being before you can do something for someone else. And always keep in mind, sometimes you have to distance yourself to save yourself.
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