If you’re anything like me, you’ve probably been in a situation where someone asks you, “How are you?” Often we respond with “good,” or “fine.” But sometimes there’s something deeper behind that answer. As a result, it’s a good idea to ask your loved ones how they’re doing, but phrasing your question a little more meaningfully. To gather responses for this article, I made a post on Facebook asking for people’s suggestions of alternative ways they could start a conversation with someone in their life. In other words, things to ask instead of “How are you?” I’ve received 22 different responses, which are listed below.
- “What was the best part of your day?… What made you laugh today? And what made you upset today?” — Sabrina
- “How are you feeling?” — Sara
- “How’s your energy today? Was today relaxing? Are you feeling positive today? If not, want to unpack that? How’s your heart today?” — Natalie
- “What made you smile today?” — Kristianna
“What’s something positive that happened to you today? Is there anything you want to talk about/get off your chest? What’s new with you? What have you been doing to make time for yourself? — Catie
- “I’m the mom friend, so I can usually tell when something is up so I’ll ask, “Did you eat? Do you want to go get lunch? Do you need to talk?” Stuff like that. — Emma S.
- “How do you feel?” — Erin
- “I’m thinking about you. What can I do for you right now?” — Abby
- “How are you taking care of yourself these days?” — Cassi
- “Is there anything you need to talk about?” — Kristen
- “You have been on my mind! How are things in your world?” — Tina
- “How are you holding up?” — Nancy
- “How has your state of mind been lately?” — Ashlyn
- “What is the best thing that has happened to you today? Do you wanna talk about the worst?” — Emma M.
- “What’s been on your mind lately?” — Jess
- “How has life been? What is new with you? What has been going on in your life lately?” — Talena
- “When my boyfriend and I started dating, he’d ask me, “How’s that heart of yours today?” and I always thought it was really compelling because you can be getting by but with a sad heart. Conversely, you can have a bad day but a good heart.” — Jessica
“What have your highs and lows been lately?” — Sharon
- “What’s new with you since I last saw you?” — Kersten
- “What truly memorable things have happened in your life lately?” — Julie
- “Have you eaten?” — Nicole
- “Have you taken care of yourself physically, emotionally and mentally today?” — Anissa
As you can see, there are many alternatives to asking someone, “How are you?” that can produce a deeper conversation between friends, family, and spouses. What are some things you ask the important people in your life to find out how they’re doing? Comment below!