We all know the saying, “Nice guys finish last,” but you know who also seems to finish last? Short guys. Think about it. Short men are shafted in the dating arena. It’s considered a negative trait, maybe even a social handicap of sorts. Most women are known to prefer men to be at least a few inches taller than them. They have a tendency to reject men that are below a certain height, especially if he is shorter than her, even before they really get to know how great of a guy he is.
A main reason that women prefer taller men is because their height is a sign of masculinity and of being a better protector and provider. If a woman is taller than her man, she feels like she could overpower him. It makes sense, but since times have changed, it might be time to evaluate how this ideology stacks up in today’s world. Modern women are capable of protecting and providing for themselves, and many women today even prefer to do so. A woman could ask herself what she values in a partner and whether or not a shorter man would actually fail to fulfill her needs simply because of his lack of height.
So next time your feeling doubt about dating a short man, here’s some things to keep in mind. A lot of women might not realize the possible upsides to dating a shorter guy.
- They are highly ambitious. Short guys are well aware of the social stigma when it comes to their height, so they are likely dedicated towards making up for it in other ways. They tend to be well motivated in terms of education, career, and physical fitness.
- They live longer. Studies have discovered that the life longevity gene FOXO3, is more common in shorter men.
- They are appreciative. Shorter men are used to being rejected simply because of their height, so when they do finally find a woman that is willing to date him, he is more likely to be appreciative of having her.
- They have great personalities. When a guy is short, he has to learn how to stand out from a crowd somehow. This is why they have a tendency to be well mannered, charming, with an infectious personality that is hard to resist.
If history has taught us anything, it’s that all is not lost for the short guy. He can still manage to find a good woman that sees him for who he is. Still, so many women will essentially discriminate a man for his height alone, and this is what could stand to change. Ladies, think about how many awesome men you have missed out on because you couldn’t see past his height – men that are now with other women that are not you. Really, how important is it to you that he’s a few inches shorter than your ideal height? What difference does it really make in the overall satisfaction within a relationship? It’s time women get over these traditional expectations and give short men the same chance as any other guy.
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This blog made me think of my early 20’s, as I was rejected by the foxes who chased after the Alfa males and showed no more interest in me than glancing at a blade of grass next to the highway traveling at 75 MPH. And this made me think about my own personal experiences with tall women, a slightly different story from this blog, but same result due to being a Beta male.
One 6’ tall girl, in a gym, talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked or acted more uninterested if she had wanted to. I approached another, who I estimated being 5 foot 9 or 10 inches. She got angry with me for even asking her out and stuck her finger in my face informing me she didn’t date shorter men. On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, there could be others, too, I just don’t remember them all. Now, you may say the rejections were because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.
This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height. Not a one even bothered to put forth the effort to get to know me much less date me. (I did date one girl for 3 years when I was in college, who was 5’8”.)
I did date three women who were significantly taller than me, two at 5’11” and one at 5’10”. (I am 5’8”) And all three happened to be 32 years of age, which is more than a coincidence and a tie in with this blog. No doubt, all three wanted a tall Alfa male, and lost, so a safe stable Beta male was the next best thing in their 30’s, for I certainly didn’t grow any taller and I doubt I got better looking. These women were past their prime and worried. I was in my late 30’s, at this time of my life, after being married for 10 years. It was also at this time, I could easily date younger women, and I did. When I was 38, my first girlfriend was 27, the next was 27 and the next was 24 who became my second wife. I never dated with any intent of marrying a woman my age. Younger women had no issue with me dating them, and I certainly had no issue dating them. I remember going to singles events and seeing very pretty women, who were my age, who I know 15 years earlier wouldn’t have given me the time of day. And even now, may have looked better than myself, but now it was me who had no interest in approaching them. I did not want to take time and money away from pursuing younger women. Why go old, when I could go young?
I am now married and have 4 sons. I have 3 degrees, and I have co-authored 2 US patents. I could have provided a good life to any girl. I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (in her 20’s) gave me a chance. I was turned down consistently and without a second thought. SO, IF YOU FIND YOURSELF IN YOUR LATE 20’S OR EARLY 30’S WITH NO PROSPECT OF A HUSBAND OR CHILDREN, YOU HAVE NO ONE TO BLAME BUT YOURSELF. There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, but they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity. (This also applies to average height women, too) And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man until it is too late. You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males in your suitor selection, your odds would increase of finding a mate, for there are a lot more short and medium height males than there are taller ones. So my advice would be to accept the advances of all men and get to know them. I, who would have relished the opportunity of having curvy broad hips and a tapered waist to hold all night and to make love to into the early hours of the morning, was never, not once, even given a chance to start a relationship. Thus, throw away the yardstick, for you may find someone like me, who would love to share his life and love with a leggy lady.
By the way, another tie in with this article and be found at this web site.
This writer tells about women’s rejections in his 20’s, only to find that women now chased after him, in spite of his height, now he is in his early 30’s. HE WARNS OF THE DANGERS OF THE “REFORMED HEIGHTEST WOMAN” WHO ARE DESPERATE AFTER WASTING THEIR LIFE CHASING THE ALFA MALE AND NOW WANT A STABLE BETA WITH A STEADY PAY-CHECK.
Here is anther on how women who found the Mr. Average (Beta Males) were worth nothing in their 20’s and now that these women are in their 30’s can’t buy a date, even from the Beta Males, titled “Why women lose in the dating game”
During their 20s, women compete for the most highly desirable men, the Mr Bigs. Many will readily share a bed with the sporty, attractive, confident men, while ordinary men miss out. As Whiskey puts it at whiskeysplace.wordpress.com: ”Joe Average Beta Male is about as desirable to women as a cold bowl of oatmeal.”
”I can’t believe how many men my age are only interested in younger women,” wails Gail, a 34-year-old advertising executive as she describes her first search through men’s profiles on the RSVP internet dating site. She is shocked to find many mid-30s men have set up their profiles to refuse mail from women their own age.
Talking to many women like her, it’s intriguing how many look back on past relationships where they let good men get away because they weren’t ready. American journalist Kate Bolick wrote recently in The Atlantic about breaking off her three-year relationship with a man she described as ”intelligent, good-looking, loyal and kind”. She acknowledged ”there was no good reason to end things”, yet, at the time, she was convinced something was missing in the relationship. That was 11 years ago. She’s is now 39 and facing grim choices.
Then there is the true hate monger of short men, as found at this site.