Sexting Done Right: 8 Rules for the Sexter in You

We’ve come to a point in time where sexting is no longer shameful but a normal (and yes, somewhat expected) part of relationships. As long as you’re not James Franco or a politician (seriously, what is wrong with the people we have in our government?), then there is absolutely nothing wrong with a little sexting from time to time. People have been sharing nude photos with their hunnies for ages, just without the technology of smartphones and instant internet access. Now I’m not saying go ahead and send dick pics to everyone in your contacts the next chance you get but if you and your boo are committed to one another, what’s the harm in sending them a few naughty photos? I know what some of you are thinking: Sexting?! What?! No way!! If those pictures got out, that could ruin my social life, my academic life, and my future career. Well, you’re right, but here are some rules to follow if you decide you want to risk the exposure (pun intended) and send some sexts:

  1. Ask yourself: ‘Do I trust this person?’ If the answer is yes, then go ahead and shed your clothes for that sexy selfie; if the answer is no, then put your phone back in your pocket and leave your clothes on.
  2. Don’t show your face if you’re unsure. The photo can basically never be tracked to you (unless you have some very noticeable tattoo or piercing, or you’re being tracked by the FBI) if you don’t show your face. A picture of your body is plenty revealing enough, so if you don’t want to, keep your face out of the photo.
  3. Make sure you’re comfortable with the possibility of your photos being shared with more than just who you intended them for. We all know how the internet works. You’re no Dylan Sprouse, and the chances of your pictures going viral are slim to none, but if you and your love have a nasty breakup, there’s nothing stopping him or her (aside from a conscience and morals, which you can hope they have) from showing your photos to a friend, so be cautious.
  4. Double check you’re sending it to the right person. Think you’re sending a nudey pic to Dave but accidentally end up sending it to Dad? That’s probably something you want to avoid – make sure you double or triple check that you’re sending the photo to who you think you’re sending it to… Otherwise you might end up with a hell of a lot of explaining to do.
  5. Do it because YOU want to, not because someone else wants you to. There will always be someone who wants to see you naked (I don’t care what you think, I promise there are people out there who want to see you naked), so only send a picture of yourself if it’s an idea of your own fruition – don’t be pressured into it!
  6. Don’t go full nude if you don’t want to. There is absolutely no shame in sexting with your underwear on. There’s no “wrong” way to sext, so if you’d rather only show the parts that someone could see if you were wearing a bathing suit, go for it.
  7. Sexting doesn’t just have to be photos. Whaaaat?! Crazytalk, I know. Sexting can include more than just nudey pics. Sexting can also be sexual text messages – dirty talk through texting can be a fun way to get excited for the night ahead of you.
  8. Snapchat! That’s really what it was created for, right? Set some pre-snapsexting rules, like NO SCREENSHOTS, and then snap away! Those pictures can disappear as fast as you want them to – 1 second, 4 seconds, 10 seconds – it’s up to you. This is a safer way to sext, although, obviously you have no control over whether or not they actually screenshot your pictures.

So, friends, while I’m not recommending you whip out your phone and start mass-sending pictures of your boobs, sexting with discretion can be a great way to have some fun. Whether you’re in a long distance relationship and trying to keep the spark alive from different states or just trying to send a sneak preview of the night to come to your office romance in the next cubicle over, sexting CAN be a perk of modern technology. So don’t be stupid or feel ashamed! Happy sexting 😉

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