There are many articles devoted to unearthing the mystery behind bringing a woman to orgasm and how hard it is for them to ‘get there.’ It’s indeed a big issue that affects millions of women (and through that, couples) for a myriad of reasons, so it deserves coverage. But, the opposite is true for some women — enter the world of accidental orgasms!
Some ladies are able to orgasm without even trying in decidedly non-sexual situations, such as exercising, laughing, or sitting up in a hard chair. In fact, so many people have had accidental orgasms while working out that a term has been coined for it: coregasm. Although accidental orgasms can happen for many reasons, most of the time they involve unexpected friction on your clitoris or pressure on your pelvic floor as well as being aroused with ease. Horseback riding, bike riding, or any other activity can unexpectedly cause you to flex Kegel muscles, leading to an orgasm. It’s also possible to think yourself into an orgasm without realizing it! Interesting, right?
Here are some other causes of and facts about this type of orgasm that you should know:
1. Massages can cause accidental orgasms.
Men aren’t the only ones who receive “happy endings” during massages. Women can achieve an accidental orgasm — both mini climaxes and full-blown ones — when the massage therapist works on their lower back. What’s more, some women manage to have them during foot massages, thanks to those comfortable vibrating chairs that customers sit in. Rubbing and grinding against a seat can stimulate both internal and external parts of the clitoris, leading to an orgasm.
2. Oral sex and stimulation of other body parts can cause an accidental orgasm.
Performing oral sex on either a penis or a vulva can cause an accidental orgasm. According to a 202 Well + Good article in which Dr. Jessica O’Reilly, the host of “The Sex With Dr. Jess” podcast, is quoted, the stimulation in the back of the throat and the power derived from performing this sexual act can make a person climax. Someone can also feel clitorial sensation through stimulation of their belly button, which is attributable to a nerve pathway connecting it to the spine through the pelvis.
3. Many non-sexual activities can cause an accidental orgasm.
If you’ve been riding a bumpy subway train and felt aroused, it’s not out of the norm. Activities such as riding a bumpy train, wearing tight clothing, and riding a motorcycle can cause accidental orgasms because of clitoral friction. Vibrations from the engine and stimulation from rubbing against the seat can cause a clitoral sensation, ultimately leading to orgasm. On top of that, abdominal exercises, hiking, weight-lifting, and yoga can lead to these (coregasms) as well, as you’re tensing and releasing pelvic floor muscles and breathing deeply as you exercise.
4. Having hands-free orgasms are easier for some people.
The mind is extremely powerful, some women can think their way to orgasm allowing their body to receive pleasure without inhibition. Unfortunately, though, not everyone can orgasm this way. If that’s not possible for you, you can engage in humping or scissoring or even experiment with remote-controlled vibrators to have hands-free pleasure.
5. Having frequent accidental orgasms without stimuli can be a sign of a syndrome.
While all of this sounds fun, it can also point to a problem. If you’re experiencing orgasms without exposure to stimuli (think sexual thoughts, clitoral stimulation, or activity that causes the Kegel muscles to flex), you may be suffering from PGAS (Persistent Genital Arousal Syndrome). Although orgasming may provide temporary relief from frequent, unwanted arousal, the feelings can return immediately, causing great distress. Often linked to anxiety, depression, and hormonal treatments in post-menopausal women, this syndrome can disrupt your life. If this is happening to you, visit your healthcare provider to go over treatment options.
There’s nothing embarrassing about having an accidental orgasm. Everyone achieves them in whatever way is most comfortable for them. Always exercise bodily autonomy and appreciate whatever orgasms come your way.