I used to think it was a good idea, an obligation almost, to pray for my future husband. So many other girls did it and it seemed like a sweet idea. However, I have recently decided that it isn’t completely necessary. It could, in fact, be a waste of time. Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to pray for other people. But I don’t think I should spend my time praying for someone who I’m not sure even exists.
Who is to say that I will get married? There is no guarantee. I want it to happen and I certainly hope it does, but that doesn’t mean the universe does. As a college student, I sometimes struggle, as many probably do, with where my life is going. Who is in it, who is not in it, what I’m doing, where I am in life, and where other people are in their lives. I constantly compare myself to others. Finding a husband is no different. They say that college is where you are most likely to find the person you marry. It puts a lot of pressure on you to find that person. But it’s important to remember that everything is done in the universe’s timing.
I feel like praying for my future husband isn’t as beneficial as praying for myself. I need to take care of myself before I worry about someone else. There are things I need to work on, things I need to figure out, and goals to reach before I start worrying about whether or not someone else has their life together. I want to make sure that I have myself straightened out for that person before we start a life together.
The truth is, my future husband doesn’t need to be perfect. I don’t have a checklist or an idea of what I think he should be. I’m in no rush to marry anyone. When the time comes for me to get married, if I do, I want it to be at the right time. I don’t want to rush into a committed relationship just because I feel pressured by society to do so. If it happens soon, then that’s fine. If not, that’s fine also. The universe has a plan for my life and with time I will learn that plan.
Praying for him is like asking God for a specific person. It’s like saying, “I know he exists and these are the characteristics he should have.” Honestly, I believe he should be praying for himself. When we meet and are a part of each other’s lives, then we should pray for each other. Until then, I think I should worry about myself.
Whoever he is and however he comes, he will be perfect. Because we were destined to cross paths. There is no doubt in my mind that everything he is is everything I will need. And if I’m lucky enough to get married I want to be sure that I am someone worth marrying and that I have a good sense of direction. And that is what the universe and I are working on right now. My husband can wait for now.
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