Relax: 7 Reasons It’s OK To Not Have Your Sh*t Together In Your 20s

Your job’s a joke, you’re broke, your love life’s DOA.

We all know somebody who has a plan. This person can tell you exactly what they want to be doing in 1, 5, and even 10 years from now. You sometimes leave conversations with said person feeling unaccomplished and even questioning your own existence. I don’t even know what I’m having for breakfast tomorrow morning, let alone what I’ll be doing 5 mother effing years from now.

Somewhere between blessing this world with your presence and being the badass bitch you are today, society has led us to believe that one must go to school, get a job, get married, have kids, and live happily ever after, all by a certain age. For some, that’s exactly what happens and they’re perfectly fine with that. But what about those of us who don’t want to follow the yellow brick road?

Here are some reasons why it’s okay to not have your shit together:

  1. The possibilities are endless

You can literally do ANYTHING. Work abroad, travel the world, go to school, take up a new hobby. The list is never-ending. It’s also nice to even HAVE possibilities upon your plate rather than the same boring thing over and over. Having many possibilities allows you more freedom, relaxation, and time to enjoy your life and find yourself.

  1. You aren’t restricted to one specific path

Not being tied down gives you the freedom to be open-minded and try a bunch of new things! Giving new experiences a chance will help you grow as a person and may even help you figure out where you want to end up down the road. Having different paths ahead of you means having many different choices, and choices mean freedom.

  1. You are NOT lazy for this

People assume you’re a mooch or a slob because you don’t have every detail of your life together. Just because you’re unsure of what exactly it is you want to do does not mean you’re lazy or unmotivated. You just need time to figure it all out and that’s okay!

  1. You’ll have time to realize what you’re good at and what makes you happy

Trying different things will allow you to pinpoint what it is that you’re good at and figure out how to turn it into a lifestyle.

  1. You don’t have to grow up right away

Last minute road trip? HELL YES. Front yard slip n’ slide? You’d be crazy not to. Karate in the garage? Why not? You’re only young and free of responsibilities for a short period of time so take advantage and be spontaneous!

  1. You can experiment with jobs

Take the time to try out different jobs. This could help you realize which field you want to work in or give you a definitive HELL NO. Either way, you’re one step closer to being where you want to be. We all have a shitty job at one point in our lives but it’s one of the best learning experiences you’ll have!

  1. You learn to do things for yourself

One of the most important things you can do in life is learn how to stand on your own two feet. Knowing how to take care of yourself causes you to learn your self-worth, which means you won’t put up with bullshit and you won’t settle for anything less than what you want.

Next time somebody asks you what you want to do with your life, don’t feel bad about not having that ever important plan. Life rarely goes the way we expect it to and if it did, where would all the fun be? Do what makes you happy and never settle for anything less than what you really want. Reach for the stars and keep doing you, boo-boo!

Featured image via Karina Miranda on Unsplash


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