It’s easy for women to feel insecure about their bodies. When you add an extra person in the bedroom with you, though, your insecurities can amplify by 100. It sometimes takes a while for women to feel comfortable enough with their sexual partners to actually enjoy sex.
I’ve been there, even though partners have told me that I’m very sexually confident. But I remember the days of fearing the moment when someone first lays eyes on my curvy body, fearing disappointing them or hearing hurtful comments.
So I came up with some tactics to help enhance my sexual experience and diminish my insecurities. And lo and behold, it worked! Here are 15 ways to feel more confident during sex:
1. Pick positions that make you feel more attractive.
If you’re nervous that he’ll see your belly, flip onto your stomach instead of laying on your back. If you don’t like your butt, try missionary or go on top.
2. Accessorize your naked body with something that you don’t have to remove for sex.
A long necklace that falls between your boobs, a choker, or fishnet stockings can help you feel a little less naked. This method really works!
3. Slowly ease into sex.
Take your time with foreplay before you move to the next stage. Get used to the way that your partner’s hands feel over your shirt, then under your shirt. Then take your shirt off and feel them touch your bra. Taking sex one step at a time works unbelievably well.
4. Playfully ask your partner why they want sex.
Although you may be fishing for compliments , you’ll hear your partner talk about their turn-ons and why they find you attractive. This will give you the confidence boost you need before you do the deed.
5. Wear lingerie.
There are so many different styles of lingerie that can accentuate your favourite parts of your body and hide the areas that you’re insecure about. And of course, lingerie is just plain sexy too!
6. Dim or turn off the lights.
If you can’t dim the lights, candles, a Himalyan salt lamp, or even Christmas lights do wonders to create a sexy, insecurity-free ambiance.
7. Buy silk sheets or silky lingerie.
There’s just something about silk that makes you feel sexy, even if you’re in a matching pajama set. If you’re feeling insecure, stock up on silky jammies or bedsheets!
8. Wear a specific perfume whenever you want to have sex.
Every time you smell that scent, it’ll make you horny and will hype you up before sex. Before long, memories of having great sex while wearing the perfume will enhance your urges.
9. Read articles with sex tips.
Even if you feel pretty good about your skills in the bedroom, learning new positions can give you a confidence boost.
10. Tell yourself positive affirmations beforehand.
Tell yourself that your partner is lucky to be in bed with you. Remind yourself that you’re a (sex) goddess. Put out into the universe that you are going to give your partner the best orgasm. The more you manifest your best sex life, the better it’ll be.
11. Shave everything.
The feeling of smooth skin against cold sheets feels confidence-boosting!
12. Create a sexy alter ego.
Use this character as a way to express yourself sexually and ask for what you need in bed if you’re usually too nervous to do so. When you have a sexual alter ego, it’s easier to let go of your inhibitions.
13. Put on background music that makes you feel sexy.
No matter which style of music is your favorite, choose songs that bring out your confident, sexy side.
14. Keep a nude photo of yourself on your phone.
Every time you start to lose confidence, check yourself out as a reminder that you’re a hot bitch!
15. Only sleep with people who make you feel comfortable.
If they don’t make you feel like the beautiful woman you are, then they’re not for you.
It’s normal to feel insecure when you’re having sex, even if you don’t know why you feel that way. But these little tips and tricks can easily help your confidence boost so you can blossom into the beautiful sex goddess you are.