In the book For Men Only, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn provide some relationship advice based on years of research. With this advice, couples can create a sustainable, healthy relationship. Based on that book, here are seven essential truths any man should know to morph into a better boyfriend.
1. Your girlfriend needs to feel loved.
Even if you have the best relationship in the world, your girlfriend will still need reassurance that you love her. When you show your partner that you love her, it helps her feel secure, protected, and comfortable. These are all vital ingredients for any healthy relationship.
When you tell your significant other that you love her, you essentially tell her, “You are important to me. I care about you and I will be here when you need me.” Without this, your girlfriend will feel alienated and emotionally disconnected.
2. Women feel their emotions deeply.
Women deal with multiple thoughts and emotions that must be acknowledged. Acknowledging your significant other’s emotions provides another form of validation. When you validate your partner’s emotions, you help her feel seen and understood. This, in turn, will make you a much better boyfriend.
3. You need to listen to her.
Even though you may feel like it’s hard to figure out your female partner, you should take your time to decipher what she is asking you. Tap into what lies underneath her words. By delving deeper into a conversation, you are investigating her and giving her your undivided attention.
4. She craves emotional security.
Most women find emotional security so important that they will even forgo financial security to get it. Create a peaceful, well-managed home where your partner feels safe. This does wonders for your relationship and your individual mental health.
5. Your Mr. Fix-It gene must shut down for a while.
When a partner seems distressed, guys usually want to jump in to save the day. But, in these cases, you need to just step back and listen. When you allow your partner the space to vulnerably share with you, she will feel loved and fulfilled. On the flip side, she will feel very frustrated if she has to hide her thoughts because she doesn’t want you to jump in and save the day every time. Being a better boyfriend doesn’t mean fixing all of your girlfriend’s problems – it means supporting her through her struggles.
6. Less sex doesn’t equal less desirability.
We know that men usually have the greater need for sex, and this issue can create significant conflict within any relationship. That’s why it is very important for you to communicate your sexual needs with your partner. Without that understanding, she cannot meet your needs.
7. Her beauty lies in you, the beholder, no matter what.
Your female partner may seem strong and independent, but what she wants more than anything is assurance that she is and always will be “the one.” You can easily help her feel this way by admiring her beauty. This is a critical component that many men neglect as the relationship lasts longer.
Men, are you willing to swallow your pride and do what it takes to please the woman in your life? By understanding these seven essential truths about your partner, you can start to make the most of your relationship and show your lover just how much you care for her.
Originally Published on YourTango