A man who loves hard will liberate you on every level. Men who love hard are men whose love emancipates you from your confines, and makes you believe that anything is possible in life.
A man who knows how to love hard will look at you like you are made of magic. The kind of shimmering magic that you feel when you are staring at the sun as it casts its golden rays down upon clouds of billowing smoke, turning them bright red, as red as fire.
A man who loves hard will care for you, listen to you, and adore you. He won’t drain your energy or make you feel like your generosity is one-sided.
A man who loves hard will respect you on every level — your personality, your values, your religious beliefs, your emotional needs, your physical needs, your general outlook regarding life, your flaws, and your past.
A man who loves hard prefers date night to encompass you and only you. He’s a man who does more than penetrate you; he is a man who knows every inch of your body. He knows how to finger your desires and gives you the kind of soul-f*cking that happens when your limbs are intertwined, and the depth of your conversation becomes the entertainment for the night.
A man who loves hard wants to know your fears, worries, insecurities, phobias, doubts, and wants. Most of all, he wants to love you through every last one of them.
A man who loves hard knows every layer of your being: your positives and your negatives, from your early-morning messy look to your flawless red-carpet look. He doesn’t just love how hot or cute you look; he loves the overall essence of your being. He’s not just into you sexually; he loves you for who you are.
A man who loves hard will be there through all of the inevitable speed bumps of life. A real man will never run away from a situation. He’s a man who’ll put in effort and fix things between you, no matter how uncomfortable it makes him feel.
A man who loves hard is there on your worst days to remind you that yes, you are allowed to feel down. And when the tough times inevitably roll through your shared lives, make sure you date a man who can look deeply into your eyes and say,
“We’ve got this.”
A man who loves hard lovingly listens to how your day went and knows exactly when to steer you away from your own stormy seas. When life’s pressures pile up in too big of a mountain for you to climb on your own, he’s there to climb alongside you.
A man who loves hard leaves love notes for you to find scattered throughout your life, not because it’s Valentine’s Day or your Anniversary, but just because. He notices the little things you do, and won’t miss a chance to express his appreciation towards you to elevate you and to make you feel important. He knows at a bone-deep level how much of a prize you are.
A man who loves hard wants nothing more than to assist in your life’s ever-expanding greatness.
Instead of being a roadblock, this man will push you forward to live the life of your dreams. He’s not the man who’ll envy you for your achievements and the grand vision you hold for yourself. He’ll celebrate with you and support you. Your successes don’t threaten him; he relishes them.
A man who loves hard wants to integrate you into his life and bring you around his family and friends. He wants them to love you and for you to love them. Sees you to be an extension of him. Wants to include you in all important events and milestones.
This man will open up your world to you, and you will gladly do the same for him.
You see, a real man leads with his love.
People feel his love when he enters the room.
There’s no questioning his intentions.
You will not have to wonder.
He will wrap you in his arms and won’t let go.
A real man loves hard.
You deserve hard love. You deserve fierce love.
Be with a man who loves like this, and you will begin to access a depth of love that you previously could not access.
Originally Published on Mitzi J Hernandez