4 Steps To Let Go Of The Hurt That’s Holding You Back From Happiness

Painful life experiences hurt us with emotional scars. These scars, which we often refer to as our emotional baggage, affect how we think, feel, and connect with others throughout the entirety of our lives. And it makes learning how to move on from that pain feel impossible.

An article by Mayo Clinic points out, “Life does not exclude any of us from bearing some degree of heartache, loss, and suffering. But, if we carry each one of these scars with us throughout life it will affect us in our relationships with our children, partners, and our careers.”

People tend to focus on their negative life experiences when a loved one has hurt them. They become angry, upset, and untrusting. 

Hostility takes over and replaces any positive feelings, beginning a vicious cycle of injustice against the self. When this energy is projected onto other relationships, self-destruction rapidly descends.

The greatest gift you can give yourself is letting go of the hurt and pain from your past in order to start fresh. 

Closing the door to the past allows you to open up to your present and live a much healthier life day-to-day. It allows you to open yourself up for future opportunities in every aspect of your life.

Emotional scars leave a person leery, creating a domino effect in which they prejudge situations and jump to negative conclusions based on past experiences rather than what is happening in the present. When you shed your past burdens, you become more open to growth in your career, your friendships, and your romantic relationships.

In order to greet each situation as a fresh new experience, you must allow it to unfold on its own. Doing so allows you to enjoy life to a much higher degree, free from the weighty burdens of the past that previously held you back.

Here are four things you can do right now to dump your emotional baggage — permanently.

1. Forgive those who hurt you.

Choose to forgive those who caused you pain and heartache in the past. Forgiveness is essential to healing enough to move forward. Do this for the sake of self-healing even if it feels wrong to do it for anyone else.

Holding onto emotions like anger or hatred is like drinking poison and expecting someone else to feel sick. It just doesn’t work that way.

2. Forgive yourself. 

Let yourself know that you accept the past simply as what has happened and forgive yourself for the choices you’ve made that led you to dark places. It’s time to stop punishing yourself. You’ve been through enough.

3. Close the door on what’s passed.

You cannot go back and change things that have already happened. There is no “do-over” in life. Close that door to the past and lock it. You cannot live your life going in reverse. Life should be a forward motion. Keep the momentum going in that direction.

4. Open a new door.

You are in charge of this new chapter in your life. You get to decide what you will call it what you want it to be about. Be positive, be hopeful, and live your life as you choose to.

Then be prepared to enter with fresh purpose — with NO more emotional baggage to weigh you down.

There is a great quote in the movie The Shawshank Redemption that underscores these healthy choices and mindsets you can employ today: “It comes down to a simple choice really. Get busy living or get busy dying!”

Originally published on YourTango

Photo by Hans Isaacson on Unsplash

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