When you end a relationship, it can feel like a roller coaster ride full of ups and downs. When you feel all of these overwhelming emotions, you may unintentionally act in ways that aren’t respectful of your ex-partner.
So how can you end your relationship without letting your extreme emotions take over? We recommend following these 5 rules to respectfully end a relationship:
1. Keep your breakup off of social media.
We all use social media as a way to vent or express our sadness. However, social media is not the place to go when you’re still recovering from your breakup. A lot of people struggle with this, but doing this shows that you’re mature enough to keep your emotions in check.
2. Take time to cool off before communicating with your ex.
Although it may feel impossible to not speak to your ex-partner, not speaking to them while you heal will help you manage your emotions. By allowing silence, you show respect towards your ex and yourself. Then, when everything cools off, you can start calm conversations with your ex.
3. Don’t talk about the breakup with mutual friends.
This is one of the biggest mistakes people make. Although it’s tempting to cry to your friends during the emotional turmoil of a breakup, don’t do this with your mutual friends. Chances are, your mutual friends all have their own opinions about the way your relationship ended. Also, speaking horribly about your ex to mutual friends might upset them. It’s best to just avoid any potential drama and stay quiet.
4. Let go of bitterness towards your ex.
Maybe you don’t remember it now, but at some point you decided to date your ex for some reason. And although it’s sad that your relationships didn’t work out, you should never cling to bitterness and resentment at the end of a relationship. Although I struggled when my ex-boyfriend and I split, I told him that I could never hate him. To this day, I carry no bitterness in my heart.
5. Never interfere with new relationships your ex may develop.
Even after the most painful breakups, we all move on and start new relationships. Regardless of how you feel about your former partner, never interfere with their new relationship after you break up. When you sabotage or interfere with your ex’s new relationships, you end up looking immature and petty. Instead of spending all of your time worrying over what your ex is doing, focus on yourself and your own healing so that you can move on, too.
Breakups can be extremely difficult to handle. However, if you follow these rules and use your own coping tools, you’ll move on in time. Just be patient. It’ll all work out in the end, I promise.
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