Why Ayesha Curry Wasn’t Wrong For Opening Up About Insecurities In Her Relationship

Ayesha Curry is under fire after commenting on one of her biggest insecurities personally and while in a relationship.

On Monday, May 6th, Curry appeared on Jada Pinkett Smith’s Facebook Watch series Red Table Talk to discuss all things.

Minutes after the episode was online, the cookbook author and TV host was dragged on social media for her comments. These comments focused on having self-doubt stemming from a lack of male attention.

Some of her heartbreaking quotes include: “Something that really bothers me, and honestly has given me a sense of a little bit of an insecurity, is the fact that yeah, there are all these women, like throwing themselves (at him), but me, like the past 10 years, I don’t have any of that. I have zero – this sounds weird – but, like, male attention, and so then I begin to internalize it, and I’m like, ‘Is something wrong with me?’”

Pinkett Smith admit that she too “dealt with that for years, too” in her relationship with her now-husband, Will Smith.

Additionally, people attacked her over feeling insecure when women throw themselves at her husband, NBA star Steph Curry. People began to “remind” her that it’s part of the “basketball industry”. And that “women are allowed to act how they want” even if it means disrespecting her relationship.

However, due to the increased backlash, Curry was forced to address the issue via Instagram two days later.


Her post reads: “It brings me pure joy to speak my mind, be vulnerable at times and to know myself inside and out. Seeing as how it’s mental health awareness month, I really want to take the time to encourage everyone to speak their truth regardless of perception, fitting into a mold or offending someone, because it’s YOUR truth. And that’s okay!”

But the truth is, I don’t see any of what she said as being wrong.

Honestly, feeling insecure within your relationship and doubting yourself because of the attention your partner is totally normal. I find this to be one of the most neglected conversations even though it’s the most important one..

Let’s be real, when you’re in any relationship, you want to have validation from your spouse. But when your partner is away from you for most of the year working while you’re at home taking care of the kids, you fail to get the attention or validation you need when you feel the most alone and defeated. And doing this in the public eye while every move your family makes is publicized must be extremely painful. There are a lot of downsides of being the wife of a professional athlete and mother that everyone forgets about.

But one thing all women can relate to is the urge to be attractive to someone. And there is a certain sense of pride and positivity that comes when a stranger compliments you. It makes you feel good regardless who says it! When people acknowledge all of the things you wish you were complimented on more often, it definitely puts you in a better mood and gives you that kick of self-confidence you needed.

She just wants to feel good enough. Just like we all do too.

And I do feel that this feeling is intensified especially after having children. After you have a baby, that you sacrificed your lifestyle and body for, you certainly have to deal with the adjustment and changes of your new life and body. It’s not easy to do that, especially when your teammate in life is always in and out of the door.

I think people reacted the way they did because they think she’s spoiled or entitled. Maybe they’re jealous that she’s living the life they wish they could or have their dream man. But the fact of the matter is, she’s a strong and ambitious woman who gives everything she’s got while balancing a busy career, raising three kids and ensuring she’s the best family woman. And I think they’re only trying to bring her down because they’re intimidated by her success and have a false sense of reality about what genuine relationships are like.

Can’t a woman get some damn validation every once in a while? Because I think she deserves it, as do most women, and we never hear it enough.

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