Well, another Mother’s Day has come and gone. To be honest, I dread this day every year. Without going into too much detail, my mom is not a part of my life. To me, Mother’s Day is a reminder of what I have lost. Moreover, it’s a reminder of what everyone else has that I don’t. It makes me feel alone. And I know there are tons of people out there who miss their moms, but sometimes it doesn’t feel that way. So, if you are like me and you feel alone this Mother’s Day, this is for you.
1) One Day Can’t Destroy You
Do you know how many days you have survived so far? For me, it’s around 6000. That’s seventeen of these dreaded days. And it hasn’t always been this way. I grew up in a way that many would consider to be very traditional; two parents, a roof over my head, and a relatively normal life. I was beyond blessed. Mother’s Day has always been a day where I would snuggle up with my mom and remind her how much I loved her. As time has passed, the day has become a perpetual punch in the gut. And yet, every year I survive. You can too. You have beaten every day so far. The challenges they threw at you were inferior to your strength. This day will be no different. It’s just twenty-four hours, and I know it hurts, but hold on. The sun will set and a new day will come.
2) Even on the Bad Days, There is Good
For a long time, I thought I would never get through this day without completely falling apart. I’m not going to lie, it’s going to be a rough one. But I have to believe that even in the midst of what could be considered my own personal hell, good things will happen. I don’t know what they will be, but I know they will be there. Just like people, no day can be completely bad. So be glad, even if just for a moment. And hey, there’s always tomorrow.
3) It Won’t Always Hurt This Bad
Sometimes, it feels like the pain we are feeling in a particular moment is permanent. This isn’t true. You know how they say time heals all wounds? Well, I used to think this was a big joke. Of course, someone else can say it will get better; they haven’t lived my life. Over the course of the past few years, I have been broken more times than I can count. Something I realized though, it was that through every heartbreak, I become a little bit stronger. Slowly, the old wounds begin to hurt a little bit less. I keep a quote written on my arm all the time and I think it’s something you should consider today: Peace will come. The fight will end. Hold your head up, and win.
4) You Are Not Alone
Perhaps, the hardest part of the whole day is the overwhelming sense of loneliness that is often attached. If you feel alone right now, I want you to know that you aren’t. You might be looking around right now and saying something along the lines of, “Well, actually I am,” but that couldn’t be further from the truth. We might be strangers, and it might be the biggest cliche of all time, but I’m with you. Somewhere out there I am feeling your pain, because it’s my pain too.
I may not know you, or what you’re going through, but I promise, there will be a tomorrow. This day, as painful as it may be – and I know it is – is not the end. Hold on. Wait for a new day.
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