Why I Am Not A ‘Cuffing Season’ Kind Of Girl

Winter has come. The days are getting colder and shorter.

Cuffing season is upon us, too. This is the time between autumn and spring where singles must choose to either endure the cold temperatures alone or embark on a quest to “cuff” someone down.

I am not sure why this season makes some people desperate to find a significant 5. It could be that they don’t want to spend a cold winter alone, or they just want someone to take to their family’s festivities so they can avoid questions like “You dating anyone yet?” or, “When are you going to settle down and start a family?”

Personally, I like the winter and never understood why “cuffing season” is a big deal The word “cuffing” makes me cringe. It sounds like you want to force someone to be with you, like they’re a prisoner or something like that. “Cuffing” sounds like you are literally shackling yourself to another person because you want to temporarily tie yourself to someone else.

I am not a “cuffing season” kind of girl because quite frankly, I could care less what my family thinks about my love life. I don’t care about being the almost 30-year-old single woman in the family. I don’t have to settle down like the rest of my kin. I am happy with my life as it is, and I will settle down when I am ready.

I am not a “cuffing season” kind of girl because I don’t want temporary love.  I don’t want to be with someone who comes with an expiration date. I don’t want to be with someone who will only see me as a warm body during the cold months and will decide to end things just as the weather warms up. I am not a “cuffing season” kind of girl because I don’t think it’s a good idea to date someone out of boredom, loneliness, or convenience. We’ve all done it at some point, but it never ends well -either someone gets hurt, or the relationship ends up being a waste of time. I’ve already wasted so much time on the wrong men, and I’m not interested in “cuffing” myself to some dude just so I don’t have to be single this winter.

I am not a “cuffing season” kind of girl because I want to date for a reason, not for a season.

Yes, having someone to cuddle and spend time with is great, but relationships take time to develop. We all feel lonely from time to time, but there are worse things than being single when it’s freezing outside – mostly, being trapped with someone you only sort of like. I don’t think I should settle down with a random guy just to have someone to spend the cold months with. I want to date with a purpose, not just to follow a stupid trend.

I am not a “cuffing season” kind of girl because being with someone is not my priority. My only priority is to do things that make me happy, and personally, getting with someone simply because it’s “cuffing season” and everyone else is doing it is not my definition of happiness. I rather spend my time with close friends and family. I’d rather spend my energy doing things I love than looking for someone to “cuff” down.

I am not a “cuffing season” kind of girl because I like my space. I don’t mind being alone. I am not the kind of girl seeking out a relationship to avoid loneliness or any other unpleasant emotion I may have.

I am not a “cuffing season” kind of girl because I plan on making my way through the fall and winter months just as I did the other months. I’ll keep doing what I did last month and the month before. I will continue to enjoy being single because this way, I have everything to myself.  I won’t have to worry about someone stealing the blankets in the middle of the night because it’s my bed. I won’t have to share my food or my personal space, and most importantly I’ll continue to make my own rules.

I am not a “cuffing season” kind of girl because I can survive winter without a significant other.

I am not a “cuffing season” kind of girl because I am certain that this winter, whether I have a partner or not, I will have a happy, merry, jolly ol’ time.

Originally published on Thought Catalog.

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