We all have encountered a foe in our lives at one point at another. And I don’t know about you, but when I look back I think, “What the hell was I thinking to trust you, and letting you become such a central part of my life”? Trust me, I’ve asked myself many times over the years. But, what I have learned about “the foe life lesson” is that it’s more a life lesson based on self-discovery. You discover what you truly deserve in your relationships. For me, I also discovered just how precious my heart and overly giving nature is.
Of course, I didn’t realize this at the time because, like most worthwhile lessons and life experiences, we don’t realize the true value of these lessons because of the pain and heartbreak we go through before the lesson can truly make itself known. That to me was where the processing and understanding of why was so hurtful and painful for me. This is where I learned that not everyone will share and/or have the same heart as you do. And I suppose this is where I feed some bullshit line about how heartache and/or heartbreak eventually helps you build up your character.
In truth, that is utter bullshit. When you’re suffering a heartache from the foe or foes in your life, it’s pure pain. And that pain can put you through unbelievable emotional turmoil and make you question what you did to make them turn on you and abandon you. The truth is that they are just showing you who they truly are. What it really comes down to is if you’re truly paying attention to the person in front of you, or are still looking at them with blinders on?
And let’s be honest, when your foe turns out to be a central part of your life, those blinders can become massive roadblocks to the true truth of who a person really is, and what their real true role is in our lives. And nine times out of ten, you don’t realize how blind you have become to the truth until they are no longer part of your everyday life. And the now sour truth is now so obvious that it could have slapped you smacked you straight in the face. And once the shock and sting of it all wear off, you start the grieving process.
Grieving from the heart is one of the most painful experiences to have to go through, but the pain teaches you some extremely valuable lessons about self-protection. And how to safeguard your heart better. If anything else, you learn that you and your heart deserve better than to be treated as a punching bag for someone to use at their ready. This is where I personally learned the lesson on accessibility. How easily accessible is your heart for someone to continue to use and taken advantage of over and over again? A scared heart and genuine overly-given spirit should not be seen been seen as an opportunity to mistreat someone.
But sadly, there are people in this world who see these beautiful traits as their opportunity to do just that. And while it sucks, to know that truth about people it is part of life. But the important thing to remember is that you will survive the impact and pain the foe in your life as severed you. And when you reach that realization that’s when the healing and the process of forgiving can truly begin. And then it is followed by another realization that you’re forgiving your foe for the pain and heartache they have caused you, not for them, but for you. And once that begins you change into a person that you were always meant to be.
And I can personally say that when that occurs, it is absolutely an amazing and beautiful thing. Why? Because then you find yourself at the door of your true purpose and passion in your life. Which can also lead to the true people that are meant to be a permanent part of your life.
I am now a published writer, poet, and successful advocate for the various disabilities.
I got a small, but a mighty circle of great friends and even true love. The lessons I have learned from my own experience has helped me become the person I am today. And that is why I can now show gratitude toward my own foe experience instead of pain, resentment, and regret.
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