We’re all human. No one is perfect, and the longer that we beat ourselves about the things we can’t change, the worse off we are.
Because what happens when you live in the past? Going over every little detail and wishing we would have done something different or better? We never give ourselves the chance to move on.
It all starts with you. The way that you handle things. And the strength that you can find in picking up the pieces and walking away.
It’s okay to stumble and fall because when it all comes down to it, that’s the way that life goes most of the time. We’re all just fighting our way through it. It does make you weak to start over, to grow through pain. The only thing that makes you weak is standing still. Is holding on when you know you need to let go.
Comparing yourself to other people will only drive you crazy. The only person that has to live with you, is you.
So, at the end of the day, you have to free yourself. You have to own when you’re wrong but more importantly, you have to know the difference between a fatal mistake, and one that can be easily forgotten.
We’re all too hard on each other and on ourselves. I’m not sure that it makes a difference, but I know it’s easier to blame yourself than it is to point the figure in the other direction.
No one knows what happens next. No one can be sure of anything until their in it. I guess, what I’m really trying to say is that forgiving yourself is the best way to deal.
Your current situation is not your final one.
We screw up. And we say things we shouldn’t. We fight and we’re messy and we hurt people we care about. Everyone does it. But you can’t let the aftermath of what’s already happened have any control over what is to come.
It’s a learning process. Every day, you’re going to be met with new challenges, new hurdles to overcome and guess what? You can do anything and everything you want too. No one is stopping you but you.
All that self-doubt, all those nights spent sleepless, it’s all going to work out in the end. Because that’s what happens. Sometimes, you just have to wait for things to fall into place. Just because they fell apart first doesn’t mean that the ending will be dark.
It’s all about timing, and just when you think that we have it all figured out, something else happens. But believe me when I say that the quickest way to fail yourself is to stop trying.
If you give up on yourself, if you can’t wake up and say yes, that happened but it’s not going to control the rest of my life, you need to take a step back.
Self-love is the hardest and the best thing to learn. But the more than you grow, the more that you change and the more that you are willing to forgive and let live, the stronger and better off you become.
It’s never easy, but the best things never are. You’re in control of your own life, so stop hating so hard and start living again. Whatever that means for you, just remember that whatever it takes, no matter how difficult or impossible it seems, it’s just not.
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