Don’t tell me you want a relationship in order to sleep with me. Please don’t get my hopes up for something I believe is real. I’ve been down this road before and have fallen for the minor hints that I thought lead me to somewhere good with you.
I don’t think my heart can take it anymore; have mercy on me. Treat me gently and understand why I fear vulnerability. I’ve opened myself up to countless amount of men who I thought would take the time to learn why I don’t just want a hook up anymore-only for them to throw it back in my face and treat me the way I didn’t want to be treated.
To me things take time, and even if you push us into a relationship really quickly I’ll be able to find out what you want. Having sex isn’t the first thing to do in my mind when I’m in a relationship; in fact, it’s one of the last things I think of. Sex doesn’t indicate a sense of emotion within a relationship, your feelings do.
I am not a disposable woman you can use at your convenience or manipulate to be fooled by your intentions. I’ve been down this road too many times before, and as much as I may like you, I can’t continue down this road out of fear of being hurt again. I can’t mentally take it anymore.
Fixating my mind on a relationship won’t help your cause in the slightest. You’ll get tired of waiting around in our “relationship” and you’ll have already mentally checked out (while still pursuing your end goal) or have recruited a side chick. To be honest, it’ll be a mixture of the two and I can’t control your mental capacity of how much you can handle. Clearly, monogamy won’t be one of them.
You might want me, but you don’t want to date me. You want to convince me you like me, but you like what accessories my body comes with. It’s flattering you may view me as being physically attractive, but I’d rather have someone be attracted to me in a number of other ways. You only want me for a friends with benefits type of relationship but not for the romantic bond, I hope to share. I’m tired of that pattern and I want it to be broken.
To put it in simplest terms, don’t waste my time and I won’t waste yours. You might not think I see your hints, but you’ll see mine bright and clear. Don’t waste your money on me, don’t waste your fabricated affection, your blank stares of admiration, or your careless compliments. I don’t want it. I want something genuine.
So please, do me a favor. Tell me your intentions, because I need to know where you stand. Be honest with me, because the moment I start seeing your ulterior motives, I’ll be gone and you’ll never hear from me again. You’re not going to get sex if that’s what you want, and you’re not going to get it no matter how hard we try. I can guarantee that. Don’t tell me you want a relationship for that reason.
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