You’re in your room, it’s a typical Tuesday night (No, this is not a Taylor Swift song). You have the usual urge to type your boyfriend’s name into the Facebook search bar and do some investigative work. For some reason, every girl becomes a regular Sherlock Holmes when it comes to detecting questionable behavior on their boyfriend’s social media pages…after all, many cheating scandals and lies are revealed through the evil, yet addicting network. Suspicions come naturally but females are being labelled as “crazy” due to our tendency to freak out about every little thing we read online.
So, how do you know when to actually be concerned? Before you sound to alarm and get angry, check out this list of 7 things to look for on your boyfriend’s social media profile that could give you reason to believe you actually have a problem on your hands. No overreaction necessary.
1. You see a common female name liking all his posts.
This girl is everywhere. Every photo he takes, every status he posts, every post he shares: there she is. You probably don’t know this girl. You’ve never met and he’s never mentioned her. Red flag.
2. There are frequent “heart” comments from a female.
It’s not his sister. It’s not his mother. But every photo has a heart symbol commented on it. Believe it or not, it’s more suspicious if he doesn’t respond at all than if he answers back with a heart himself. If he comments back, he probably isn’t hiding anything.
3. There are tags and/or wall posts talking about a “good time last night/weekend.”
It doesn’t matter if the poster tagged like 20 people, if you had no idea this event was happening, it’s weird. It’s not that you need to know what your guy is doing 24/7 but if he’s planning a night out with friends (or a friend) who’s not someone he typically hangs out with, it’s odd that he wouldn’t invite you or at least mention it to you.
4. His profile has zero sign or mention of you anywhere, ever.
He never posts photos of you together. He doesn’t list himself as in a relationship at all, much less with you. He never posts anything about spending time with you but posts about hanging with friends. If he’s openly dating you and proud, he should be showing it.
5. He posts photos with another girl and calls her his “bestie” but you’ve never met her.
This also works for photos tagged of him with another girl and her posted similar captions. If you’ve never even heard of this girl, it’s hard to imagine they’re best friends. Friends with benefits, maybe.
6. He constantly retweets some girl’s love or relationship tweets but they don’t relate to you at all.
Maybe he retweets a girl’s post about taking a new step in a relationship, but nothing has changed in yours. Or perhaps an “I’m sorry, I love you” tweet, but you never had an argument. If it’s always the same girl, this might imply he has something with this girl.
7. He posts “check-ins” with a girl tagged.
It doesn’t always mean anything but if he’s posting check-ins with only one girl tagged to fancy restaurants, common date venues, or hotels, (I mean ladies, really) it’s a major red flag.
If you happen to find one of these “signs,” talk to him about it calmly, listen to him, and try not to panic. There absolutely can be truthful, reasonable explanations and most importantly, in a healthy relationship, you shouldn’t feel like you HAVE to stalk. Curiosity is normal, but if you find that you’re constantly compelled to creep and jumping to conclusions, there may be bigger issues at hand. Make sure you discuss any trust issues or concerns you have with your partner. If he’s the guy for you, he’ll understand and you can work on it together.
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