As women, we constantly feel the need to appease others. It doesn’t matter how big or how small, we always have to live up to someone else’s standard and cater to them. And if we don’t, we find ourselves in a vicious cycle of saying “sorry.” Now, it’s not always a bad thing to apologize, but you need to stop saying it so much. Don’t believe me with how many times in a day we say “sorry” a day? Here are some examples:
1. Stop saying sorry for speaking your mind.
The fact people still have the mentality that women shouldn’t voice their opinion is ridiculous. If you’re thinking something, just say it! As long as it’s not rude or extremely confrontational. Manners are still important.
2. Stop saying sorry for your appearance.
Didn’t wear the nicest of outfits to a dinner with your girlfriends, or a new man? Don’t apologize. People know that you could have had a bad or busy day and you don’t want to get dressed up. But who cares? Own your comfort and your happiness and embrace it.
3. Stop saying sorry for asking for help.
Asking someone for assistance is not showing your weakness. In fact, I think if you ask for help shows confidence because you don’t care what someone thinks. Not everyone knows what they’re doing all the time and everyone needs help from time to time.
4. Stop saying sorry for not replying right away.
We’ve all had a day where we just don’t want to talk to anyone because of the mood we’re in, or the fact that we’re running around like a chicken with its head cut off. Don’t feel the need to always have to defend yourself for not replying- especially when they call you out on it.
5. Stop saying sorry for turning down plans.
Everyone needs their down time, and sometimes you’re really not interested in doing what your friends want to do. It’s completely okay to say no and not go for once. You need that time for yourself or to do other things you’ve always wanted to do. They’ll understand as long as you’re honest with them.
6. Stop saying sorry for things out of your control.
Sometimes stuff happens and sadly there’s nothing we can do to fix it. Guess what? It happens every day and there’s no reason we should beat ourselves up for it constantly. Other people will understand it too. It’s life.
7. Stop saying sorry for showing your feelings.
There is absolutely nothing to feel ashamed of when being vulnerable and being expressive. Sometimes we need to show anger or devastation. We need to let it all out. And as long as you’re expressing it to the right person, they can sympathize and appreciate- especially if they’re willing to listen without judgment.
8. Stop saying sorry for taking a break for a moment.
We get overwhelmed with our busy lives from time to time and we can slowly feel ourselves reaching our breaking point. If you have to call in sick to work because you feel so stressed out? Do it. Your mental health is far more important than showing up to work on the verge of a mental breakdown and having that happen while at work.
9. Stop saying sorry for not knowing what you’re doing.
None of us do. No one has everything put together. And the moment we think we do, something happens to change all of our plans. It’s normal to have setbacks.
10. Stop saying sorry for doing what you love.
If you enjoy going to theme parks, go sit in line for two hours to ride a three-minute roller coaster. If you enjoy wearing nothing but Costco yoga pants because they’re comfortable, rock those yogas girl! There is no reason to apologize for doing what you love! You only have one life, live it the way you want to without regrets.
If people in your life can’t accept you for who you are or for doing what you like without having to apologize for every single thing, they clearly aren’t worth being in your life. Remove that ‘S’ word from your vocabulary as quickly as possible and only use it when you genuinely mean it (or have to say it to be polite but you lowkey don’t mean it).
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